And the reason you felt to post a picture like this My mother probably likes people but its wierd putting a picture up for her

 

Billy Zane snd Keiffer Sutherland, both well over 40 and very tasty!!

 

I don't know Clare's, but my tuppence worth says- nothing at all. I don't think most women stop or change their affection for their partners just because their partners have lost their hair and grown a bit of a belly etc. I wonder how men generally think and feel when their women put on some weight, start going grey and/or collect cellulite on their body over the time passing. Do they devaluate their ladies because they aren't so "bird-like" any more?

 

This thread is worthless without pictures, H.



Another 40+ pretty boy:



And his mate Robert (38) is cool, too :

 

http://api.ning.com/files/PzbR5OvttU...lly_zane_4.jpg

I think he's 46

http://images.zap2it.com/images/cele...therland-2.jpg

 

Hmm going bald isn't like getting fat or not caring about your appearance. With the former it is genetic, the latter because you either eat too much or stop caring.

 

Going bald (genetic) can be put parallel to going grey (natural), though. So can "going wrinkly". Do men generally wave that, and don't change the way they feel and think about their female partner? Or, would they prefer their women to disguise the natural grey and natural wrinkles under the header of "caring for herself"?

 

Can see now.

 

Nothing wrong with us youth
I'm 28

 

Great pic, Prodriverules! Nothing wrong with you youths at all. Was it Wilde who said that youth is the lord of life? He or whoever said that was wrong, for the youth is a pathetic slave to life. Life inevitably kicks it out after some years, and proceeds to the lordship of maturity. However, no crime being younger to others at all. Its not your bleddy fault if the oldies are getting bleddy older, is there?

 

I am feeling some jealousy towards the younger generation??
Tbho though I don't feel young by any means given I had my first child at 17 followed by twins at 19,it was a very steep learning curve to get my thought's into family life and the 'maturity' it takes to make the right decisions to do right by them

 

Great pic, good on you for posting it
I feel no jealousy towards younger people. I have loved every age I have been. 40s now and proud of it.

 

I don't think grey and wrinkles are bad per se but youth is a womans greatest asset and these are signs of aging. Some men go bald at 18, it isn't necessarily a sign of being old.

I must admit myself I don't ignore women if they are 40+ and showing signs of aging, but I tend to if they are overweight. That is how superficial us blokes are.

 

Wimmins are just the same, Tony. I detest a pot belly on a bloke. Real turn off. The odd wrinkle and bald head, (as long as it's shaved and not a comb over) would not put me off

 

Some men like a bit of `junk in the trunk` Nothing worse than an anorexic stick insect.....like Posh Whorebag She looks like she escaped from Belsen!

Im over 40, here`s one of me

 

Nothing, but I would be a bit put off. If men can be superficial, then why can't I? Obviously if a bloke I loved went bald, it would be a different matter. I could encourage him to shave it off or get a transplant

 

I think the issue here is that attraction to a 'mate' when single is different to the attraction when in a relationship.

I think first impressions have a different effect on how attractive we find people, and I don't think that age would be as important as weight or personal hygiene.
Surely most people would pick someone a little older if their health and weight (lifestyle
choices) we're better?
As opposed to someone younger, and carrying more weight?

However, in a long term relationship, I think perhaps we accept that these things are not as major as what they seem on first meeting someone. You learn that it's not down to being lazy that they are heavier etc and that there is a bigger picture that makes us attracted to someone past just the physical side of things?

 

I'm just gawjus lol

 

Yeah I see that quite a bit. Friends of mine 'letting themselves go' now they are married. I think it is more than just the fact that they are slightly older, it is because they don't have to make much effort now. Admittedly some of the women have had kinds recently so I can understand the weight.

 

Lee, didn't you post a pretty much similar thread to this some years ago?! Something like, "Over 40s, show yourselves!!!". I seem to remember it knocking about when I joined in 2006(?)

You're obsessed woman!

BTW, I'm 44 in September... LOL

 

Quite true!

I do think people relax, or 'let themselves go' as it could be seem by some. You get married, have a few children and your priorities change. And I do think that it takes some women a few years to get past the I am a mummy, I wear jeans and t shirts stage, before they have the time, and want to spend the time putting themselves first.

Of course I can't speak for all men and women, and certainly there are exceptions to this, but on the whole I think many couples fall into a 'comfortable' stage.

I think people in their 20's and 30's maybe take their youth slightly for granted, and it's only recently I'm thinking, prevention is better than a cure. As I have got older I have embrased who I am, and I hope that will continue.

 

Weight isn't all about letting yourself go, it gets harder as a woman later in life to shift it, especially if you've had kids. Just nature I guess. I am healthy though, cycle, go to the gym etc. Much healthier than when I was 18, but weigh more. Life sucks sometimes

 

It's **** isn't it?!

 

Good one, Steve

My job as SN Fairy Godmother is to remind the SN massive, there is life over 40. I have succeeded, my work here is done for another couple of years

K, this is meant to be a perving at the over 40's thread

 

Okay. And getting older is a natural process, which seems to be more of a stigma for women than for men. Yes?

Makes perfect sense, Tony.


LOL I can see where you are coming from, and my post was quite the opposite, with the fact that youth is a passing phase indeed. For that reason, one must enjoy it to the hilt for the time being when you have got it. I personally appreciate youth very much. I also started to have babies since my 19th. IMO its good fun to have them when you have strength to push the pram, and to kick a football around with them. Now, just looking at my older kids' skin and energy makes me realise how blessed they are be young. The other day, I had my younger kid and a few of her mates (boys and girls) to take back to their university. They found a 90's dance CD in my car, and blasted it all the way through with "Cotton Eye Joe", "I find you very attractive" and "Feeling hot, hot, hot" songs. The brats were jiggling and giggling all the way, which made me laugh so much that I loved it!

Life doesn't need to suck if you are healthy, though. Who do you want to be thin for? Yourself or to please the standards set by the opposite sex? Just live life and enjoy it.


This^ also makes perfect sense TBH.

 

Seconded.

Good one to marcevs72 as well.

 

I better get some more pics up then

 

http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/sit...r-2011-a-p.jpg

 

Nah, I know. I don't smoke, don't drink to excess, go to the gym twice a week and cycle a lot, but still seem to be around the same weight. I have lost 1.5 stone over the last couple of years, so perhaps this is my natural weight. Husband doesn't mind too much what I look like, when you lay down it all seems better, doesn't it?

Really, if I could lose another stone, then I'd be happier, not to say I'm not happy now though.

The trouble with getting older is that the media see "youth" the same as "beauty", so for us who are getting a little older, we are made to feel less than beautiful, but we all know that that is not the case, we just mature and get laughter lines! I would rather have laughter lines than be miserable like posh spice. Yes, she has lovely skin, but looks fecking miserable!

 

Nearly 40