salsa-king

what sort of trouble?

The Dogs B******s

Married in a registry office(out of choice) with three kids,not christened(my choice)

scud8

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I married in a Catholic Church and both kids were christened (and confirmed) as Catholics. I'm a dyed-in-the-wool atheist, but anything for an easy life!

To be honest the wife wouldn't have cared if I had dug my heels in except that she had set her heart on this particular church and in those days you couldn't get married in a Catholic church unless you agreed (in a moral sense) to bring the kids up as Catholics - and the best local primary school was Catholic as well. The mother-in-law may have been more difficult.

I just took the view that the kids would work it out for themselves - my son (now 20) still goes to church, but my daughter (18) has fallen on my side of the fence.

Frosticles

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Married with 2 children.
Wedding was at The Robin Hood Banqueting suite in Nottingham which was ace. Children are NOT Christened as we don't believe in such.

Fat Boy

Married in a village church (of England) although I am theoretically Catholic as my wife used to play the organ (fnarr, fnarr) there as a young girl. Had to go through a couple of excruciating chats (sex etc) with the local vicar, but all good - great religious music (played and sung by family friends) from both sides and the vicar even thanked my Catholic side of the church for the building - as we would have been the original owners Good sense of occasion for us and the oldies loved it.

300 people at the full on marquee wedding (irish catholic...) and now have two kids, both christened at one year old - good excuse for big family and friends get together and it helped with getting a letter for the local catholic primary school which is one of the two best in our area. Our kids actually went to the local non denominational school in the end, which is marginally better, but the catholic one would have been ok as well if we hadn't got offered the best one first.
Very irreligious myself but still like bits of it for this sort of thing

tarmac terror

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Married 2 years ago in a simple church ceremony - Mrs T wanted a small traditional wedding. Minister was excellent, former military padre, who fully understood that we were not church-goers, and he saw no point in applying pressure to attend before the wedding or after. Still see him in the village and stop for a chat with him, or go for a coffee with him.

We had twins arrive back in June, we have decided we will take them to church when they are older, as it offers them a good moral grounding. Not decided yet if we will have them christened. Neither my wife or I were christened, we both did attend church as kids, it did us no harm.

tarmac terror

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Married 2 years ago in a simple church ceremony - Mrs T wanted a small traditional wedding. Minister was excellent, former military padre, who fully understood that we were not church-goers, and he saw no point in applying pressure to attend before the wedding or after. Still see him in the village and stop for a chat with him, or go for a coffee with him.

We had twins arrive back in June, we have decided we will take them to church when they are older, as it offers them a good moral grounding. Not decided yet if we will have them christened. Neither my wife or I were christened, we both did attend church as kids, it did us no harm.

Jay m A

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Married in a non religious ceremony in Cheshire, 2 kids, one attended the wedding, one born after. Both not christened.

Clarebabes

Yes, married for 3 years. It was a lovely day, ceremony in the Guildhall in Northampton, with village hall hired for reception. Cost £3K all in including rings Best wedding I've ever been to

Have daughter from previous relationship, not Christened.

Coffin Dodger

are ayou married, if so where did you get married, what type of wedding did you have?


Married for nearly a year (end Nov). Local registry office, parents & brothers / sisters only, meal after at a nice restaurant then onto a massive party for all the family (there's lots of them!) in the local community hall - Provided food, drink (from Calais and a local brewery), and a band. Booked a local pub for lunch on the Sunday for everyone to meet up and compare hangovers Think we actually made a profit on the event as both sets of parents contributed £3k to the event, and the total was bit less than that IIRC

There was no way either of us were prepared to spend five figure sums on the event, were renovating a house and the money is being put to much better use there



if you have children
did you had them Christened?

if so, what were your reason?


No kids yet Won't have them Christened or anything else as were both non believers

Ant

Got married abroad last year, expecting our first child in 8 weeks and already had the christening conversation , we will not be doing it neither of us are religious. Also people that we know seem to be throwing christening's like it's compulsary and showmanship pathetic really.

WRXBOB

1st Marriage was a big white church wedding / top hat n tails affair blah blah blah.
Kids christened as wife wanted them doing.
Divorced 6 years later.

Present marriage was in Florida at some fancy gardens (Not a Disney Wedding) and was more relaxed and better weather.
No more kids planned.

Peanuts

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Married, in a church with a white wedding
One boy, baptised because that is our belief

Leslie

My children were baptised. They hardly realised what it was all about at that age of course apart from the chilly water bit.

I have to say I never noticed any significant effect on them from the baptism as they grew up, but they were totally free to make up their own minds about religion later which is exactly how it should be.

Les

Trout

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I have to say not having our children christened has clearly caused some consternation in my family as my dad was a vicar! I think everyone was confused as there was no christening party!

SJ_Skyline

Married 10 years ago in a church ceremony, kids were christened 2 years ago (just in case you needed reminding mate )

zip106

3rd marriage, 4 kids, two with current wife, first kid at 16 with then girlfriend,(who is now sister in law) 2nd kid with 1st wife.
All marriages in church, all kids Christened - more to appease everyone else than myself.

zip106

3rd marriage, 4 kids, two with current wife, first kid at 16 with then girlfriend,(who is now sister in law) 2nd kid with 1st wife.
All marriages in church, all kids Christened - more to appease everyone else than myself.

Peanuts

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Now that ficked up!
So ficked up in fact that you had to put it up twice to be sure

The only way that could have been any cooler was if your old fella shacked up with the your ex so that she actually became your sister, and your nipper became your nephew or neice, that would have rocked

zip106

Who are you?
How do you know my family?!

Peanuts

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hats off to you matey

J4CKO

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Married, full on white one, er, because that seemed like the thing to do and it was a nice day, not fussed about the whole church thing but she wanted a white wedding and I have to admit it did lend it somethign compared to a registry office.

Kids, three all christened C of E, I wouldnt have bothered, certainly not with the church bit as I am not religous and they can make their own minds up, again it was one of those things that you are supposed to do, certainly on her side, even though they arent religous they are sticklers for tradition, I do think though that it is an opportunity for a family get together, just could do without the whole religous mumbo jumbo.

zip106

Sorry, it's all bollox.
I had to reply to the thread as I know what Salsa's getting at.

My personal life is not quite as fecked up as that but not far off!

Peanuts

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being baptised can certainly help with getting into some schools later on

zip106

What?!
You mean some people might pretend to be 'religious' just to get their kids into the best skules?

Heavens above, I've heard it all now.

Miniman

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Married in a church service in a beautiful old Christian church. We consider ourselves Christian but I am also firmly a believer in science and engineering. Additionally I am a traditionalist and believe in ceremony in order to give something legitimacy. No I don't see any problems in any of this.

My children are baptised, reason is obvious really I wanted to taint them with a religion that they have no choice in and bring them up to fear all evil things and indoctrinate them into the cult that I am also part of. I want to never let them think for their own and make them read books damming evolution as the devil's morning thoughts (before focusing his attention on how many hours they prayed the day before). I have prevented my children from enjoying any dinosaur related activities, especially that Natural History Museum in Kensington - den of heretics I assure you. :-)

In reality part of the baptism ceremony is very relevant to the way you (may) bring a child into the world and how you bring them up. It may be a Christian ceremony, but I felt it related to my hopes for the way that I live my life with them going forward. I did not feel that I was unfairly disadvantaging them in future just because we chose to carry out a ceremony in a church (though it's clear from some of the comments on this thread that some people believe that is happening).

Miniman

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Trout

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Nothing like a bit of religious indoctrination to get into a Catholic School.

Although you would think that parents would get more suspicious having Vaseline on the list for sports kit!!!

Hysteria1983

Same here, my uncle is the local minister at home in Johnstown. Grandparents were very religious, but it just never rubbed off on my dad.

My patents had us all christened as babies, but personal preferances stopped me from making my children become members of a faith they have no idea about.

The thought of them having to renounce their God simply because they don't beleive in that paticular faith just seems wrong. That's possibly only because of my own issues with life abd religion.
So I don't feel it's wrong to have a child christened or baptised, it's all down to personal choice.

Tidgy

come on then phill, when's she due mate?