dad is dead
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Sorry to hear about your loss.
Might be corny but one saying that I have up in my office that is so so very true for many situations
"Anxieties yield at a negative rate,increasing in smallness the longer they wait" Piet Hein
So true! What seems just impossible now will somehow feel less painful as time goes by.
Chin up
Might be corny but one saying that I have up in my office that is so so very true for many situations
"Anxieties yield at a negative rate,increasing in smallness the longer they wait" Piet Hein
So true! What seems just impossible now will somehow feel less painful as time goes by.
Chin up
sorry to hear the bad news KOT, condolences to you and the whole family.
As mentioned , let it all out & crack up but be strong for your ma, nothing will make it go away, but time heals & makes it easier. All the best.
As mentioned , let it all out & crack up but be strong for your ma, nothing will make it go away, but time heals & makes it easier. All the best.
I lost my dad to cancer last month mate and it is really tough but you will pull through it.
You will feel a lot of pain but you find a way to live with that pain.
Its really hard at first but I am now focussing on all the good memories that I have and will always have.
PM me if you wanna chat to someone going through the same thing.
You will feel a lot of pain but you find a way to live with that pain.
Its really hard at first but I am now focussing on all the good memories that I have and will always have.
PM me if you wanna chat to someone going through the same thing.
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I lost my dad to cancer last month mate and it is really tough but you will pull through it.
You will feel a lot of pain but you find a way to live with that pain.
Its really hard at first but I am now focussing on all the good memories that I have and will always have.
PM me if you wanna chat to someone going through the same thing.
You will feel a lot of pain but you find a way to live with that pain.
Its really hard at first but I am now focussing on all the good memories that I have and will always have.
PM me if you wanna chat to someone going through the same thing.
It's really good to know that you lot can be so caring.
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We all spend so much time reading about each other, family's, friends, loses and gains ..
Its genuinely upsetting when you read a thread like this and although its been a year (which I didn't realise at first, its 2011 now isn't it
) I can imagine the pain is still there.
Its 8 years since my mum died, (I'm 28) and 6 months since my best mate died and I still dream about them, still make the mental note to call them or tell them about something .. it hurts less, but it still hurts .. I think that's what makes you human.
Its genuinely upsetting when you read a thread like this and although its been a year (which I didn't realise at first, its 2011 now isn't it
) I can imagine the pain is still there.Its 8 years since my mum died, (I'm 28) and 6 months since my best mate died and I still dream about them, still make the mental note to call them or tell them about something .. it hurts less, but it still hurts .. I think that's what makes you human.
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We all spend so much time reading about each other, family's, friends, loses and gains ..
Its genuinely upsetting when you read a thread like this and although its been a year (which I didn't realise at first, its 2011 now isn't it ) I can imagine the pain is still there.
Its 8 years since my mum died, (I'm 28) and 6 months since my best mate died and I still dream about them, still make the mental note to call them or tell them about something .. it hurts less, but it still hurts .. I think that's what makes you human.
Its genuinely upsetting when you read a thread like this and although its been a year (which I didn't realise at first, its 2011 now isn't it
) I can imagine the pain is still there.Its 8 years since my mum died, (I'm 28) and 6 months since my best mate died and I still dream about them, still make the mental note to call them or tell them about something .. it hurts less, but it still hurts .. I think that's what makes you human.
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I think as a courtesy to other members you should put an edit in your first post to draw attention to the date of your first post because folk don't look closely at the date.
But of course I appreciate that anniversaries like this can be tough.
dl
But of course I appreciate that anniversaries like this can be tough.
dl
Sorry to hear this kot. Ive learnt altho they might not physically be with you there always gonna be withvyou in your mind memories and thoughts
All the best to you and your family
All the best to you and your family
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Very sorry to hear of that terrible news. I know what it is like since I have been through it too.
It takes time more than anything to come to terms with it. It is where the family ties do as much as anything to ease the pain.
Les
It takes time more than anything to come to terms with it. It is where the family ties do as much as anything to ease the pain.
Les
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Mine died a year ago whilst I was still mid-air coming back from Holland. Spent the weekend before that with him as you could see he didn't have long to go. It brought the family together of course, but I still really miss him.
The "remember the good times" advice is spot on.
The "remember the good times" advice is spot on.
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i lost my mother in October, when the call came thru from my brother, I was expecting to talk about his newborn daughter, who was born the day before!!
the circle of life indeed
tbh -- it validated my (and my wife’s) decision to have a large family, because you just have to focus on being the best dad (parent) you can possibly be to your children and give them all those special memories etc and equip them with the "life" skills to succeed -- be the very best you can be, and hope they do the same -- the circle of life
the circle of life indeed
tbh -- it validated my (and my wife’s) decision to have a large family, because you just have to focus on being the best dad (parent) you can possibly be to your children and give them all those special memories etc and equip them with the "life" skills to succeed -- be the very best you can be, and hope they do the same -- the circle of life
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I'm starting to get angry with the hospital now, twice I have rang only to be promised they will let me know what is happening and twice they have failed to do so.
I checked my answerphone messages earlier and I came across one from my Dad sounding chirpy as ever, that was hard.
I checked my answerphone messages earlier and I came across one from my Dad sounding chirpy as ever, that was hard.
http://www.cancersurvivors.org/Copin...erm/stages.htm
Let it flow dude - Don't bottle it up
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Sorry to hear it my thoughts are with you i lost my father 12 yrs ago and my bro 6 yrs as lee247 said you never really get over it you just try and cope with it
dont bottle it up talk to people how you feel
dont bottle it up talk to people how you feel
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condolences for your loss kot im not saying that the pain sense of grief and regret go away but the edges blunt a little over time then one day you realize they are in a special place in your memories dont shut out your friends and family they dont know what to say or do to help god bless steve.b
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