Thanks I have told all the people I can think off, he was complaining of a sore groin I feel I should have realised what that is a sign of. the warden where he stayed was recently axed. really feel bad not being there

 

Thoughts to you and your family KoT

 

Jesus sorry to hear that mate, cant really offer you anything more than what people have said on here before me, however I am sure that friends and family will pull you through.

 

Mate, sincere condolences, my dad died 4 weeks ago today, he had been diagnosed with cancer just 3 WEEKS before mate and he took a turn for the worse while in hospital, and they straight away put him into a morphine coma where he lasted 2 days pain free before he went....

Never easy to know what to say, think of the good times and your not the only one out there carrying around any hurt or pain.

I don't know you from adam but if you need to talk bud from someone thats been there recently, then drop me a PM, it does get better.

 

Really sorry to hear this sad news my condolences to you and your family !

 

not good m8, my thoughts go out to you and your family

 

Really sorry to hear of your family's loss KoT,

My Mum and Dad have been sorting out their Will's lately and that has been distressing enough for my sister and I.

I really can not imagine what you are going through.

All I can say is, think of all of the good times and know that although he is physically gone you now have the best Guardian Angel ever!!!

SPG

 

kot,

Do not do what I did and bottle it up - it can screw up your life.

Rely on friends, family and anyone else to get you through this. Be with people and talk about your Dad, good and bad. Let your emotion out and it will get easier eventually.

Condolences to you and your family.

 

Sorry to hear this KoT, when I lost my grandparents I focused on the good times and remebered them that way not the suffering of being bed ridden in a home. Nobody can tell you how to deal with a loss like this, but suggestions can be taken and you can determine the way you choose to deal with this loss.

 

KOT. I can empathise. I lost my mum a few years ago and it hit me hard. It takes time but you WILL start to pull through. Right now you'll grieve, get angry, blame yourself and others but there IS light ahead TRUST ME.

It took me about 12 months to start feeling a semblance of normality again.

Don't worry about being "strong" just let your emotions out.

Talk to family.

Sorry to hear you are going through this painful time.

Mark and Alison.

Our thoughts are with you.

 

Very sad to hear, mate.
Take comfort from the fact your dad will be looking down on you night and day.

 

Lost my dad when I was 17 I am now 44

I still get a lump in my throat when I think of the times he has missed

My Marriage, birth of my kids, and both my Impreza's

Time is a great healer but you won't forget

 

I'm so sorry, sympathy to you and your family.

 

Sorry to hear your news

All our thoughts to you and your family.

 

Thanks everyone, massive shock when i heard i literally dropped to my knees and sobbed, he had 3 and a half years knowing his grand son and watching him grow up. I am going to see him in the morning not sure whether it is a good idea to take my son

 

so sorry to hear this news KOT
and 70 these days is not old
as others have said, loved ones and time are a great healer
and you must remember him for the good times
as for your 3yr old
i would not take him
lost the wifes nan in 2008 and took the boys to the funeral, their choice
aged 16 and 14 and they found it very stressfull
deepest sympathy

peter

 

Sorry to hear your sad news.

 

I wouldn't take your son. I chose to go to two viewings, right for me at the time, but not somewhere to take a child IMO.

 

sorry to hear that mate, as everyone says don't bottle things up as it makes it alot worse in the long run.

 

Thanke everyone, I am feeling numb and drained atm, keep expecting him to call around or ring

 

I am so sorry.

Can't really add anything. Don't bottle things up, just let your feelings come out.

You know where we are if you want a chat. Take care. xx

 

Sorry to hear that KOT

Its something you never get over. But time does make easier to live with. be thankful of the memories and time you had with him.

My Dad would have been sixty two this year; been gone for almost four years now. Only feels like 6 months ago though.

 

Sorry for your loss mate

 

very sorry for your loss mate....

 

Thanks everyone, i have managed about 30mins sleep so far I ended up dreaming this was all a bad dream. I hope saying goodbye tommorow will bring some comfort.
Looking back at saturday he was shivering and had blue lips he insisted he was fine and not to worry. just wish i'd taken him for a check up.

 

I think it will help to go and see him, you'll see how peaceful he is and you get to say a private goodbye.

As for taking your son, I don't think it's a good idea, I never took my 2 boys (4 and 3) but it's a difficult decision for every parent to make.

Try to take some comfort from knowing that wherever he is now he's in eternal peace with no suffering.

 

Sorry for your loss my friend.

You just cope and get on with things.
There will be an unreal amount of things you'll have to do now with regards to funeral arrangements.

I've been through this more times than I really care to remember.

ABout 3 years ago my mother died, just short of 4 weeks later my father died and 4 months after that I lost a brother.

You'll get by and you'll yourself know when you want to be alone or with people.

Chin up big lad.

 

So sorry for you, I lost my Father almost 25 years ago and I dont think I have got over it yet, it happened two years after losing my Mum. I think losing my Dad was more of a shock as it was my last parent.
It takes time, the pain will never completely go but as they say time is a great healer.

 

sorry to read your news mate, hope you can remember the good times you had together and try to keep strong for yourself and those around you