Nope, about 250 miles away

 

I fall in love with someone new practically everyday, but hey, that's just the price I pay for beig a man

 

just split up with the wife after 13 years, what im doing is working extra shifts to keep me busy, ive picked a lady friend up to help pass some more time and taken up downhill mountain biking so all in all i dont have much time on my hands to think about her.

 

there is a very very fine line between love and wanting to just nail everything around you in my opinion

 

Keep yourself busy and tell yourself every morning when you wake up, why you broke up with each other.
Do not go out looking for a **** as it will all end with empty expectations of the closeness you had.
Be positive and spend time doing something you really want, fishing, sports, the gym, or something else to keep you busy.

 

plentyoffish.com

 

This is where I'm stuck. I've gone all negative and can't be arsed starting to do anything.

 

That is where it starts to mess you up a bit. You HAVE to do something constructive so that you are not thinking about it all the time.

 

Saves spending money on tissues, Bob

 

Focus on the little things that you never liked doing that you no longer have to do.

 

Its only ever time that does it, or meeting someone else!

Les

 

well I thought I was on to one last night but she's a **** tease oh well, meeting up with her for a drink next week. And if been texting another girl

Bob T. I am similar to you I think with the positivity thing, I guess that's the first big step, realising things will get better

 

You have to force yourself...

I moved jobs, all of 30 feet but another company, doubled my salary and took up gig photography.

 

The Samaratians deny that cuts in their training budget is having an adverse effect on the quality of their counsel!!

To the OP:

1) As much as it may hurt right now, it WILL get better given time. We have ALL been there, trust me!

2) You need to want to move on: don't sit around and torture yourself: it's done, she's gonna move on, whatever you do, so you may as well be happy!

3) Absolutely NO contact with her whilst you're getting your life back together; it will only delay the healing, even if it's well-intentioned on either side. Maybe in time you'll be able to salvage a friendship, but right now YOU have to now do what is right for YOU, not her.

4) Get out there with your mates and enjoy the single life. Sounds cliche', but there are pros and cons to both being single and attached. If you focus on what you're missing rather than what you've gained, you'll make yourself miserable

5) You broke up for a reason: never go back. Easy to idealise exs, but a band called Marillion came up with a great analogy: looking back on past relationships is like looking at a star, you see something for how it was a long time ago, but the truth is what you're looking at is long gone!

6) There will be others if you look and don't get all bitter about past failings. Count on it

Feel better soon!

 

Well thats one way to look at it, the other is that things could get worse, she may be the first/last and only girlfriend you get that actually doesn't look like a mutant.

Life is an uphill struggle designed only to inflict pain and misery onto yourself and others live with it

 

Ns04, I appreciate those comments, very true and they do make sense.

As for some of the others, I don't know whether to laugh or cry

 

BEER! The cause and solution to all your problems!

 

Stay away from women for a while. They will only make it worse!

 

High class hooker and a bag of snow!


Serioulsy though, go to a different town, pull the first thing that shows a bit of interest, **** it to death, then in the morning youll feel a little bit better.

Do the same next week and the week after and youll feel great, plus have a few more notches on the bed post!