Vent away hun. Being scared etc etc comes natural to things like that even though its not

you going through it but a family member. Fingers crossed for the best.

 

Thank you

 

see, what did we tell you???!!


super-dooper news... big hugs to you and mum, xx

 

Hun, There are so many different illnesses, and health problems out there,this thread has been invaluable to so many - as a comfort, advice point, somewhere to off load.. it does you good to get it off your chest once in a while, and I think this thread is the perfect place - cancer related or not

Some tablets can affect your liver function. It may be as simple as they have to change the meds she is taking or worst case, perhaps something isnt quite right, but they have found out now and not later - they can take steps to get it sorted.

It doesnt help you though, I know as I have been, and continue to be there with both my parents. 1 slightly dodgy result is all it takes to start the worry all over again

Keep postivie, hun, and deal with things as they come - and remember this thread is here ..let us know how things go

xx

 

As you said to me, vent away xx

Fingers crossed hun, I really hope all goes well and your news is as good as mine. Big hugs to you xoxo

 

I'll keep you guys informed, and thanks for your caring words.

It just feels like everything is going to **** right now. I've worried a little about what is wrong with me recently(fits etc), but now I don't even care about that.

Tbh, I don't care what happens to me, I just want Mam to be ok. She has had so much go on in her life, I just want a time for her to be happy, and enjoy some good times.

Oh sorry, I'm not in the best frame of mind.

 

My best wishes as well Lisa, I just hope it all goes well for you both.

Les

 

I hope everything is ok lisa, sending you best wishes

Steph xx

 

Well, my wonderful Sis in Law has days. I have watched a thread on here about HIV tests for other than Brits and feel sick. My brothers wife has her 51st birthday on 8th March. I doubt she will see it. I am in bits as she is the Sister I never had and my brother and I are so close.
She has been fighting this for 5 years now. I wonder now, why this and other previous Governments feel other Countries people are so much more important than our own. They should be spending every penny that is spare on getting this awful illness, in check. I doubt they will, until it affects them.
I am going to see her this weekend, hopefully, to say Goodbye. I have no idea how I will manage as I am as soft as muck.
She is a wonderful lady and believe it or not, when she wakes up, she is comforting my brother, saying it's alright. Amazing.
She will leave a big hole in mine and others around her, lives. I hate this Country and it's do all for others and nowt for it's own. Sorry, but I think she might have had more time if the powers that be valued it's own, instead of sucking up to others.
Feeling very bitter at the mo' so forgive me if I post any crap

 

Have you spoke to the marsden centre in south west london mate

 

Sorry to hear you're news Lee, your poor sis in law

Sadly the big C doesn't differentiate the good people from the bad.

Rant away till your hearts content

 

So sorry to hear this, Lee. I so hoped she would win the fight.

To be honest, I just don't know what to say. My thoughts are with all of you and if you want a rant, feel free to get in touch. xxx

 

Ahh that's horrible , I've only ever lost a great granny and tbh I only went to see the twisted old witch to make sure she was a gonner

Don't think I could bring myself to go say 'goodbye' to a loved one.....your a braver person than me
Hope you get to say your goodbyes

 

Cry, hug and laugh together. Good luck Lee. And of course to your sister-in-law and her family.

Pete

 

Really sorry to hear this Lee , hope she hasn't suffered to much and will find peace soon.

Chip

 

My thoughts are with you

 

Thank you everyone. I just wanted a wee rant. It's such an awful illness and you feel utterly helpless.
I should hear from my Brother tonight when he gets back from the Hospital.

Lisa, thanks for the call. Was good to chat

 

Ah, Lee. So, so sorry to hear this. I don't know what to say. If you need to vent, you know where to get me.

 

Lee, that's tragic, I dont know what to say, I wish I could conjure up something that would make a difference.
God bless.

 

No problem hun, anytime xx

 

Very sorry to hear this Lee, your brother and sister in law will need all the support he can get in the coming weeks and months and at least he has good people around him such as yourself. All the best

 

Thanks Paul Hope your health is improving

 

My Sis in Law has gone here
I am going to see her tomorrow. I hope she makes her birthday, but I doubt it. It's heartbreaking and speaking to my brother tonight had me in bits.
You notice the hospice relies on donations. These places are so special and needed, you would think the Government would find the money instead of giving to all and sundry that just take the ****.
I will be useless, as I have already said, I am soft as muck when it comes to people I care deeply about. She is a wonderful lady and will be sadly missed. She wants out now, that is what has my brother so upset. Everytime she wakes up, she is saying " Why" It's awful.
Thank you to those who have took the time to comment. It really is appreciated and helps.

 

Bugger, sorry the link to the Hospice won't show

 

Very sorry to hear about your sister in-law's health, Lesley. Make the most of the time she has left. My thoughts are with you.

 

Swati, thank you. You have been an amazing pal and continue to be so xx

 

I visited her tonight, in the Hospice. It's the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I will never again complain when I am feeling ill or have a dose of cold. Ever.
To see such a vibrant woman reduced to, well I can't begin to describe it, it's heartbreaking.
I stayed for an hour, and when I knew I was going to break down, I told my Brother I had to go as my kids had a Pizza waiting. WTF I just needed an excuse as me crying was not going to help. I feel weak and helpless but my Brother assured me, even though Elaine looked like she was sleeping, she was listening to our conversations.
I spoke about all the daft things we laughed about over the years, like my first attempt at fake tan, ending up with a steaky overdone foot. She smiled. I kissed her and told her I loved her, cuddled what is left of her and she whispered she loved me too. Christ.!!
This is awful. Sorry if you all think this is pointless on a car forum, but believe me, it is helping me no end, just to talk about it. All I can say is Thank God, Sara posted this thread. I can't talk to my kids as it would upset them and bottling things up, helps no one. I have friends on this forum and sorry, but I need you all now

 

Lesley, remember this car forum is made of humans.

Good that you saw your sis' in-law tonight. Hope she isn't in much pain. You are there for your brother and for the rest of your family. Your SN pals are here for you. X

 

Exactly!

Talk away and let any feelings you want out on here. It doesn't matter that this is a car forum, as Swati says, we are all humans, and alot of us care about each other. Anyone who does happen to think this is pointless, quite frankly, that is up to them, but they don't need to read, nor comment.

If posting on here goes any way to making you feel better, or giving you an outlet, then keep posting!

All you guys can do right now is be there for each other, laughing or crying. You are all only human and feelings are all part of that, it's not a case of being weak. I personally think what will help is all of you knowing each other is there and cares. If tears come along, then so beit. Better to all laugh and cry together than not be there at all, imo.

Again, hugs and love to all of you xxx

 

She passed away last night. 3am. 51 years old and 2 days. She was the best. I will miss her terribly. Sorry if any of you do not like this type of post, but it is life. RIP Elaine, You were the Sis I never had. xxxxxx