That's great news Anthony you'll have such a weight lifted now

Nice one SMACS

 

Thought it would be nice for the SMACs guys to see our 's...

https://www.scoobynet.com/northern-2...ml#post6643637

 

Congrats and thanks to you and SMACs liitle-ginge.

Les

 

Originally Posted by 500
Just to let you all know, us SMACS had a Rolling road day on the 2nd of feb and raised 160 for charity, which was given to cancer research on monday



Thankyou Guys & Gals

Anthony

 

Got the sad news that my close friend that I mentioned was told that his bowel cancer has spread to his liver and it is inoperable. I know he is not an SN member but it has affected me deeply.

Les

 

Very sorry to hear about your friend Les........

Please try and keep your chin up for your own sake please Les.....you need to try and keep being positive about things mate.

Regards

 

sorry to hear about your friend les i hope that he either gets better or god takes him without pain.

 

Les,

It's terrible when you hear of someone close who cannot be treated; I understand fully how you are feeling.

My cousin died of stomach cancer - he suffered from crohns disease, and after many years started having pain again. The Dr's wrongly treated for crohns and it was cancer; by the time they realised it was too late. It's 6 years this week since he was taken from use aged 32, with a 16 month old son.


As Si said, try and keep positive - I'm sure thats what your friend would want.

Anna

 

Thanks to all for your kind messages. You must realise how I am feeling. He is a top bloke, why does it always seem to happen to the good guys?

Les

 

Leslie, I am saddened by your news about your friend. We don`t care whether he is a member of SNet in the slightest. As said before, this is a room to air your emotions. Rant, whatever you need to do. same goes with everybody.


Anthony

 

awww Les, I am so sorry

 

it always seems to happen, good news is always quickly followed with bad.

am sorry about your friend leslie its good that you are finally well so you can be strong for your friend, i hope this isnt too difficult for you.
i was getting my life sort of together when i got some bad news.......

i wasnt going to post this but i have to get it off my chest............my dads friend of 30 years was diagnosed with cancer of the colon on wednesday. he has a tumour the size of a tennis ball. i dont know much about it yet but my dad is on the floor. he hasnt coped very well since losing my mum 6 months ago.

 

Sara, sorry to hear about your dads friend. Hearing this kind of thing puts life into perspective doesn`t it.
I have been very lucky I know. Seeing people having treatment at the hospital made me realise, there is always someone worse off than you.
I will admit openly that in the past I have wept over my situation, I am not ashamed to say. Throughout my life, I have always been very healthy, never suffered any broken bones etc.
I could have chosen to bury my head in the sand and let it get me down. But if you give in then, it has won. My wife has been a rock to me as I have said before.
People at my work say to me, I know how you are feeling. No they don`t. You can never judge a person until you have walked a mile in their shoes.
People can be understanding to a certain point, but they don`t really know.
A person on my street has been in similar circumstances, I found it a great help to talk to him and I`m sure he felt the same way.

Anthony

Take Care Each & All.

 

I'll agree with you BEP no one has a clue how your feeling really apart from people who are going through the same thing its lucky that there is alot of support around now than there was years ago no one knew about cancer or they never spoke of it everyone who reads this post and comments on it has been touched by it somewhere somehow in their life and its lucky we're all here to support one another

I hope everyone is doing well. take care

Steph x

 

Thanks agin to everyone for your very helpful messages.

Sara, your Dad's friend has got more or less what I had. Colonic cancer is one of the easier ones to cure providing it has not spread. It is easy to remove compared with most other tumours. It has to be caught in time of course.

Tell your Dad that all is not lost and if it has been contained he should be ok. Hope that information might help him anyway. If all goes well they cut it out and sew the pipes back together-with luck he won't even need a colostomy bag.

Les

 

had some bad news last week leslie, his cancer has spread to his liver i think and his blood, and somewhere else. it is terminal but he wont tell us how long he has. he is about to start chemo this week i think.
he had no signs that he was ill at all
my dad is finding it very difficult to cope as he hasnt got over losing my mum.

it was tough for me this Mothers day as last year we had just found out my mum was ill so i took her away for a special Mothers Day. i spose then i didnt believe it would be her last

i spend last week looking at cards and stuff for mums grave but having to read all the cards did my head in. the pain is unbearable sometimes, just thinking that she has gone forever is too much to bear
i knew the weekend would be hard but i wasn't prepared for the depression it put me in. i wasn't even able to enjoy my own mothers day. its all the anniversaries that are hard to deal with.

i hope everyone is managing ok

 

sara - thought of you yesterday.

In a way we have been lucky as all the "firsts" were quite soon, ie first xmas, first bday first mothers day... still bloody hard though.

Been busy the past two months painting and repairing mum's house ready for it to go on the market to sell. This has been an incredibly emotional time as it has felt like I was painting over "mum" with Magnolia. Have used the time to good effect though and I am sure she would actually quite like what we have done with the house, even though she hated magbloodynolia

It has been nice to go to the grave too whilst I have been down there and make sure she was ok. I dont think I helped the waterlogging issues down there though as before I even got out of the car I was wailing like a banshee. It felt good to be in a place where i could feel close to her though.

I miss her so much.

 

i was thinking about you too, wondered how you had coped.
my mums birthday was in January, so yes, all the first anniversaries are over now. been bladdy had hard though.


i have had similar thoughts as you about changing things. my dad was redecorating and changing curtains, ornaments and bedding etc. days after the funeral. that was horrible to watch, my mums house slowly being changed into something i didnt recognise. but its done now.

i enjoy going to mums grave, i grass the kids up to her and tell her whats going on. her grave looks beautiful, no matter what the weather is like.

glad you are getting by, slowly but surely

i miss her so much it hurts

 

Only just noticed this Thread,and been reading back a few pages ,such sad sad events,,

My thoughts and my familys are with all those mentioned.....

 

Thanks for that Skywalker 23.

Les

 

hi Leslie, my dads mate isn't looking to good atm, he also has cancer of the bowel as well as the liver and blood. tomorrow he gets told the nitty gritty. its really got me down as i know what to expect. i cant believe that i only lost my mum 8 months ago and already we are going to be going through it again

how are you Les anyway, keeping well?

 

sara just noticed this thread luv, so sorry tae hear aboot yer maw

God bless her and grant u all patience ameen

 

thanks moses

yep this thread has been kicking around for a year now, its been a huge help

 

so sorry luv, i dont know how i missed it, i woz away for a yr

i hope all is well in the family

God bless u

 

i wanted the thread to be made a sticky or something as it gets lost after a few days and no one knows its here

the family are well thanks moses

just waiting for the summer to blow away some cobwebs

 

God willing luv it sure would and it would be an awesome summer

i never been tae the lake district i saw it on tv , its like heaven on earth i will take my lil girl their God willing and God willing u have an awesome summer tae ameen

 

all i want is the summer to start, i am sure all my problems will be gone once its here

Lake District is beautiful, well worth a look

 

cheers luv , will dae God willing

may all your probs vanish ameen

peace

 

Just found this thread and would also like to say how sad it is to hear of peoples losses and the emptiness it leaves behind.

I can only remeber back to when my Dad died I was only 17 and had just started to get to know him as a friend as well a a dad. He got me into the whole car thing as he loved his old Rover's. I spent many an hour passing him spanners and asking 101 stupid questions but now cherish those distant memories.

Altough it's easy to say for me as it's been years since he died it will get better for you. You will never get over it but you will learn to live with it and it's best to remember the fun times you had - lt's been 20 yrs for me and I still carry his photo in my wallet and if I take it out and think about it too much it's still upsetting.

Over time you will find it takes up less of your waking hours but it doesn't mean you loved them any less you just learn to get on with living.



Just in case anyone reads this and might think they are in the early stages of a close relative or friend having a serious illness please don't start to worry unnessacrilly.

During the early part of last year my Wife was having problems with a bloated tummy and pains we made a joke of it and doctors didn't really seem to know what the problem was.
Eventually they sent her for a scan and as it wasn't a problem she went on her own. She rang me at work afterwards and said at the scan they said she had a cyst on her overy and should arrange to see her doctor the next week.

Again we didn't think much of it until her doctor rang that day and said she should come down the following morning.
He then told her he wanted her to go for futher tests and she would get an appointment from the Hospital. The Hospital called the next day with an appointment a couple of days later.

At this point I stated to worry as things were happening very quickly and you start to think the worst. Then I decided to see what I could find out on the web. For me a big mistake !!
I started to read about ovarian cysts and the strong link to ovarian cancer ' the silent killer' as it's known.
At this point I started thinking the worst - I would lose her, her four year old son wouldn't have a mum, she would miss our lovely son growing - up how terrible and unfair it all was.

I couldn't cope with it and shed several tears. Even when I spoke to my bosses to arrange time off to go to the hospital as I started to tell them I had to leave the office I just couldn't cope.

The hospital visit came we went in they did their tests and yes she has a cyst on her overy but noncancerous... Such relief I can't put into words.

I mention this because someone else might find themselves in the same circumstances and I just wanted to say it might not be as bad as you think.

Anyhow for everyone who has lost a loved one in whatever circumstances there is a lot of us out there the same and we feel for you.

And if any of you know anyone who's has lost someone don't feel you need to give people space as I think for most the opposite is true - talk to us, visit do the things you would do before it helps.

Sorry to ramble on.

 

Ramble away, thats why this thread's here