What have I done?
#151
Originally Posted by lucylastic
Thanks very much Milamber - well, once I get round to binning my naive, everyone on here is for real, beliefs - I'm sure I'll be just fine
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#152
Originally Posted by Reality
If you ever want any help just stick with your "real" name - you'll get real help then .
Anyone starting threads with "I'm not a newbie I'm using an alternate name..." is fair game
Anyone starting threads with "I'm not a newbie I'm using an alternate name..." is fair game
#154
well it aint me!!!
as i said been there got the t shirt etc..
never turned to drink or had scuicidal thoughts...
if the guy is true, the only thing that will sort him out is professional help, and until he or she is big enough to accept that, then they can post until the cows come home it wont change anything..
anyway your post is hypocritical to say the least!!!
you miss you wife an love her?? how sanctimonious is that, you had an affair for 12 months... how much love and support does that show your wife..
did you miss her whilst you were procreating with the other??
did you honestly think that this other would take you and your emotional baggage ..
she did all the running.... yawn...
if you were not interested, you should have told your current wife, theres nothing like a bit of competition to stir things up..
M
as i said been there got the t shirt etc..
never turned to drink or had scuicidal thoughts...
if the guy is true, the only thing that will sort him out is professional help, and until he or she is big enough to accept that, then they can post until the cows come home it wont change anything..
anyway your post is hypocritical to say the least!!!
you miss you wife an love her?? how sanctimonious is that, you had an affair for 12 months... how much love and support does that show your wife..
did you miss her whilst you were procreating with the other??
did you honestly think that this other would take you and your emotional baggage ..
she did all the running.... yawn...
if you were not interested, you should have told your current wife, theres nothing like a bit of competition to stir things up..
M
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Meanwhile on the knitting-forum.com Mrs Prendergast posts:
"I need advice, I'm so upset. I've been married to my husband for many years and have committed my whole life to him. We've had our ups and downs over the years but then what relationship doesn't? The other evening he annouced out of the blue that he's been having an affair for the last year and is leaving me to be with his lover. I am so distraught It's like someone has ripped my heart out of my chest. He's betrayed me for months and all our plans for the future are in ruins. This was four weeks ago and I have with the support of my friends and family made every effort to get on with my life and deal with this but now he is coming round and begging me to try again. I just don't think I can recover from such betrayal! What do you suggest I do to resolve this situation as quickly and fairly as possible. I just want to get on with my new life where hopefully I can make a fresh start and learn to be happy again."
Thats the person I feel sorry for to be honest! Notwithstanding you've got yourself in the mess as we humans do and I do have a degree of sympathy. I suggest you do as many others have suggested and stop boozing, get working again and take each day as it comes. Now is the time to call on the support of friends and family but I'd make a point of being up front and honest with them that its YOU that f*cked up All the best.
"I need advice, I'm so upset. I've been married to my husband for many years and have committed my whole life to him. We've had our ups and downs over the years but then what relationship doesn't? The other evening he annouced out of the blue that he's been having an affair for the last year and is leaving me to be with his lover. I am so distraught It's like someone has ripped my heart out of my chest. He's betrayed me for months and all our plans for the future are in ruins. This was four weeks ago and I have with the support of my friends and family made every effort to get on with my life and deal with this but now he is coming round and begging me to try again. I just don't think I can recover from such betrayal! What do you suggest I do to resolve this situation as quickly and fairly as possible. I just want to get on with my new life where hopefully I can make a fresh start and learn to be happy again."
Thats the person I feel sorry for to be honest! Notwithstanding you've got yourself in the mess as we humans do and I do have a degree of sympathy. I suggest you do as many others have suggested and stop boozing, get working again and take each day as it comes. Now is the time to call on the support of friends and family but I'd make a point of being up front and honest with them that its YOU that f*cked up All the best.
#160
Originally Posted by Diamond Dave
Mart why did you feel the need to deny it was you?
Has the guilt been weighing you down all day?
Has the guilt been weighing you down all day?
i,m just wating for chos!! to pipe up ala wind up..
hehe
Mart
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Originally Posted by Saxo Boy
Meanwhile on the knitting-forum.com Mrs Prendergast posts:
"I need advice, I'm so upset. I've been married to my husband for many years and have committed my whole life to him. We've had our ups and downs over the years but then what relationship doesn't? The other evening he annouced out of the blue that he's been having an affair for the last year and is leaving me to be with his lover. I am so distraught It's like someone has ripped my heart out of my chest. He's betrayed me for months and all our plans for the future are in ruins. This was four weeks ago and I have with the support of my friends and family made every effort to get on with my life and deal with this but now he is coming round and begging me to try again. I just don't think I can recover from such betrayal! What do you suggest I do to resolve this situation as quickly and fairly as possible. I just want to get on with my new life where hopefully I can make a fresh start and learn to be happy again."
its YOU that f*cked up
"I need advice, I'm so upset. I've been married to my husband for many years and have committed my whole life to him. We've had our ups and downs over the years but then what relationship doesn't? The other evening he annouced out of the blue that he's been having an affair for the last year and is leaving me to be with his lover. I am so distraught It's like someone has ripped my heart out of my chest. He's betrayed me for months and all our plans for the future are in ruins. This was four weeks ago and I have with the support of my friends and family made every effort to get on with my life and deal with this but now he is coming round and begging me to try again. I just don't think I can recover from such betrayal! What do you suggest I do to resolve this situation as quickly and fairly as possible. I just want to get on with my new life where hopefully I can make a fresh start and learn to be happy again."
its YOU that f*cked up
#162
Its the x wife I feel sorry for!! What do you want people to say, you fecked up!! All this crap with suicide get over yourself - think how your feeling and you did it to yourself - what about what youve put your wife through. The part of the marriage vow for better for worse doesnt cover you knobbing someone else!! Everyone goes through **** in their lives but the only thing you can do with life is live it!! its precious, theres people out there battling illness and wanting to live and because you couldnt keep it in your pants you think you have the right to end it all.
In a way I feel sorry for you, it is hard loosing someone close to you but you didn't exactly loose her you pushed her away!!
In a way I feel sorry for you, it is hard loosing someone close to you but you didn't exactly loose her you pushed her away!!
#163
Originally Posted by scoobybitch
Its the x wife I feel sorry for!! What do you want people to say, you fecked up!! All this crap with suicide get over yourself - think how your feeling and you did it to yourself - what about what youve put your wife through. The part of the marriage vow for better for worse doesnt cover you knobbing someone else!! Everyone goes through **** in their lives but the only thing you can do with life is live it!! its precious, theres people out there battling illness and wanting to live and because you couldnt keep it in your pants you think you have the right to end it all.
In a way I feel sorry for you, it is hard loosing someone close to you but you didn't exactly loose her you pushed her away!!
In a way I feel sorry for you, it is hard loosing someone close to you but you didn't exactly loose her you pushed her away!!
Wow, what a bitch
Go scoobybitch!!!
Maybe his wife should have given him the 'BOBBIT' treatment
#164
Lifes a bitch Big Den. And before anyone says it I think in this case it should be lifes a ******* then you marry one!! People say you don't realise what you've got till its gone, if you value what you have dont do something stupid that could result in you loosing it.
#165
Originally Posted by scoobybitch
Lifes a bitch Big Den. And before anyone says it I think in this case it should be lifes a ******* then you marry one!! People say you don't realise what you've got till its gone, if you value what you have dont do something stupid that could result in you loosing it.
#168
Originally Posted by scoobybitch
Thats the thing tho, you screw about with somebody else behind your partners back knowing that you may get caught and knowing what the end result could be. Why?
#169
Originally Posted by scoobybitch
Thats the thing tho, you screw about with somebody else behind your partners back knowing that you may get caught and knowing what the end result could be. Why?
I wouldn't worry about Tim too much - I doubt he's (or she's) ever had a girlfriend never mind a wife.
Re-read his first post and tell me that's the writing of a man in despair - what's all the "She was a Vixen" "did things no other woman had done" ****e if he's really upset about losing his wife .
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Originally Posted by Reality
It's the same reason women end up with 5,735 pair of shoes.
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Originally Posted by Timothy Prendergast
She did things to me no other woman has even suggested
and what could that be?
made your life a misery?
or better still tied you up and whipped your ****?
i'm not too sure is this genuine or what
as how the hell did you think of this user name,
i am thinking its an anagram, but only got the word "pretend"
normally when someone has a problem, they will post it up, and reply frequently. but you seem to be a gag.
if its genuine then you have enough answers and help already, an its all now up to you!
if its a fake,
then post your pic so i can make another "ebay t shirt"
female one
one that says
"MY HUBBY FUKED A SLAG, AND ALL I GOT WAS THIS LOUSY T SHIRT"
#172
Originally Posted by wwp8
normally when someone has a problem, they will post it up, and reply frequently. but you seem to be a gag.
if its genuine then you have enough answers and help already, an its all now up to you!
if its genuine then you have enough answers and help already, an its all now up to you!
I received a letter from my wife's solicitor yesterday asking me to make no further contact with her as I am only causing her further upset and distress. It sort of knocked me for 6 and had me seeking solace from the bottle.
I have taken a positive step and removed all alcohol from the house and replaced it with soft drinks. I also went in to see my boss this morning and I'm returning to work a week on Monday. At least with something to occupy my time and mind I should be able to straighten myself out.
Thank you again to everybody who replied with constructive posts.
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So you bonked a girl behind your wifes back and now have nothing? Excellent
I feel sorry for your ex-wife and hope she finds someone monogamous who loves her 100% in the near future.
I think you're just down coz now you have no-one... Simple answer here get over yourself, get a solicitor to sort out the divorce, move on and remember (as I've been shat on after a 7 year relationship) things will get better and you will have learnt your lesson.
Shabba!
I feel sorry for your ex-wife and hope she finds someone monogamous who loves her 100% in the near future.
I think you're just down coz now you have no-one... Simple answer here get over yourself, get a solicitor to sort out the divorce, move on and remember (as I've been shat on after a 7 year relationship) things will get better and you will have learnt your lesson.
Shabba!
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Originally Posted by Timothy Prendergast
Thank you again to everybody who replied with constructive posts.
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i believe you got what you deserved BUT suicide isnt the answer (trust me i know!!) it is a valuble if painfull life lesson you need to learn from it and move on i doubt youl do it again by the sound of it you really regret it which is a good thing meaning your not that much of a ****** just dont do it to anybody else