What have I done?
23 August 2005, 12:25 AM
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Originally Posted by fast bloke
Walk away - get a ticket to outer mongolia and set yourself up as a professional sucker....you seem to have a talent for it
Originally Posted by fastbloke
most importantly - never trust a woman - they are all after your money or your huge *****, or in my case..........both)
In cases like mine
23 August 2005, 09:23 AM
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Originally Posted by Timothy Prendergast
Assumed name time so I don't bring too much **** taking upon myself. I have made an absolute pig's ear of things and don't know where to turn or what to do. I feel like ending it all just so I don't have to face the consequences of my actions. I have tried drowning my sorrows to no avail except for a stinking hangover the following day. Work have put me on sick leave until I have got my act together and shaped up.
The long and the short of it is this, I met a woman and got too involved with her not just the quick legover it was supposed to be. I found myself falling in love with her. She did things to me no other woman has even suggested and I think I followed my **** rather than my head.
She suggested I leave my wife of many years and go to her. I didn't really want to but she became very persuasive. This woman was a vixen, she oozed sexuality and knew how to use it. I finally plucked up the courage to tell my wife I was having an affair and moving out of the marital home. She was devastated, she cried, I cried, she offered to put it behind us and for me to reconsider my choice, but I couldn't. I packed my bags and left. In the car I called ***** and told her what I'd done. She sounded so enthusisatic and said she couldn't wait to see me when she got back from her holiday, which was only 5 days later so I booked into a hotel for the duration.
When I picked her up from the airport she was very distant but I put it down to her being tired. We went back to her place had a bite to eat and went to bed. She slept with her back to me and didn't say a word. In the morning I confronted her and she said I'd taken the fun out of the relationship by leaving my wife and I should go home as she didn't want me anymore. I was crushed. She didn't want to discuss it and asked me to leave. I grabbed my stuff and left.
I went home with my tail between my legs and found the locks had been changed, my wife wouldn't answer the door and told me to go away. I cried through the letterbox but she just turned some loud music on.
I went to the off-licence and bought a bottle of whisky and sat in the car and necked it. I awoke in the morning covered in puke and feeling very sorry for myself. I went back to the marital home and begged for a second chance but my wife was resolute. It's been 4 weeks now and all I've done is drink and sleep. I'm currently living at my sister's house while she is away touring Europe. My wife is filing for divorce and ***** has a new boyfriend she met on the internet. My life is on a downward spiral and I feel out of control.
What can I do? Death seems so inviting.
The long and the short of it is this, I met a woman and got too involved with her not just the quick legover it was supposed to be. I found myself falling in love with her. She did things to me no other woman has even suggested and I think I followed my **** rather than my head.
She suggested I leave my wife of many years and go to her. I didn't really want to but she became very persuasive. This woman was a vixen, she oozed sexuality and knew how to use it. I finally plucked up the courage to tell my wife I was having an affair and moving out of the marital home. She was devastated, she cried, I cried, she offered to put it behind us and for me to reconsider my choice, but I couldn't. I packed my bags and left. In the car I called ***** and told her what I'd done. She sounded so enthusisatic and said she couldn't wait to see me when she got back from her holiday, which was only 5 days later so I booked into a hotel for the duration.When I picked her up from the airport she was very distant but I put it down to her being tired. We went back to her place had a bite to eat and went to bed. She slept with her back to me and didn't say a word. In the morning I confronted her and she said I'd taken the fun out of the relationship by leaving my wife and I should go home as she didn't want me anymore. I was crushed. She didn't want to discuss it and asked me to leave. I grabbed my stuff and left.
I went home with my tail between my legs and found the locks had been changed, my wife wouldn't answer the door and told me to go away. I cried through the letterbox but she just turned some loud music on.
I went to the off-licence and bought a bottle of whisky and sat in the car and necked it. I awoke in the morning covered in puke and feeling very sorry for myself. I went back to the marital home and begged for a second chance but my wife was resolute. It's been 4 weeks now and all I've done is drink and sleep. I'm currently living at my sister's house while she is away touring Europe. My wife is filing for divorce and ***** has a new boyfriend she met on the internet. My life is on a downward spiral and I feel out of control.
What can I do? Death seems so inviting.
Lets me translate:-
Your **** lead your head, you fukced around with another woman, you told your wife who was then devistated and now you are on your own.
And you want sympathy? Don't make me laugh...
You made your choices mate, deal with it.
if you can't deal with it, then at least top yourself cleanly and with some respect for the emergency services that will have to clean up the mess....
23 August 2005, 09:42 AM
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Originally Posted by Chip Sengravy
Is compassion your middle name Diablo?
Mike, no one forced him(?) to **** the the other woman. As human beings, we are blessed with the ability to reason.
The originator of this thread made a choice (although I'm not convinced that choice wasn't "lets have a wind up on Scoobynet"
) and if he didn't think through the consequences that is his look out.Its not about lacking compassion - its about someone being a **** (as is his absolute right), and getting burned for it (as it the likely outcome).
23 August 2005, 09:45 AM
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Bit harsh Diablo - if it is genuine then the guy probably IS at his wits' end, whether it's of his own doing or not. Whether SN is the right place to vent it or not is another matter..
23 August 2005, 10:03 AM
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Originally Posted by TelBoy
Bit harsh Diablo - if it is genuine then the guy probably IS at his wits' end, whether it's of his own doing or not. Whether SN is the right place to vent it or not is another matter..
Its about time people started to understand that
23 August 2005, 10:05 AM
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Easy to say when you're disassociated from it. We all get embroiled in things that take over our emotions, whether good or bad - then it ain't quite so simple...
23 August 2005, 10:17 AM
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Originally Posted by TelBoy
Easy to say when you're disassociated from it. We all get embroiled in things that take over our emotions, whether good or bad - then it ain't quite so simple...
Some of the choices I've made have been good, some have been bad, but I've accepted the consequences and dealt with it.
If the bloke wants to top himself, thats his choice - just as it was his choice to **** around behind his wife's back.
23 August 2005, 10:23 AM
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Originally Posted by ajm
Scott, bitter and twisted alumni from the school of hard knocks!
I'm not bitter Alex, quite the contrary in fact
Dealing with the hard knocks is just part of life's experience. Its not what happens to you, its how you deal with it.
23 August 2005, 10:28 AM
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Look, if this is geniune I can't see what the fuss is all about.
For some reason the bloke needed to stray, so the wife isn't the be all of life. But, because the guys been dumped, going back to the wife is an easy convenience to make life better. She's sussed you out pal.
**** that. obviously the marriage was doomed to fail, the other woman wasn't exactly the one either, it seems you have no kids so what you have now is a free life.
Lucky bast@ard some would say.
Suicide my ****. Sober up, get your wages out of the joint account, get a good solicitor and get the **** back to work.
Next!
For some reason the bloke needed to stray, so the wife isn't the be all of life. But, because the guys been dumped, going back to the wife is an easy convenience to make life better. She's sussed you out pal.
**** that. obviously the marriage was doomed to fail, the other woman wasn't exactly the one either, it seems you have no kids so what you have now is a free life.
Lucky bast@ard some would say.
Suicide my ****. Sober up, get your wages out of the joint account, get a good solicitor and get the **** back to work.
Next!
23 August 2005, 10:53 AM
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You boys are tough - Although I have to say, I broadly agree with you. You can wallow in self pity or you can make a determined effort to rebuild your life. Choice is yours...
- Although I have to say, I broadly agree with you. You can wallow in self pity or you can make a determined effort to rebuild your life. Choice is yours...
23 August 2005, 11:05 AM
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If you are going to do yourself in, I would suggest you have a go at stealing a massive amount of cash.
If you get caught, do yourself in whilst on remand.
If you dont get caught, re-locate to Thailand, get some shrink to sort your brain out, and buy several young ladies for cleaning and pleasure.
If you get caught, do yourself in whilst on remand.
If you dont get caught, re-locate to Thailand, get some shrink to sort your brain out, and buy several young ladies for cleaning and pleasure.
23 August 2005, 11:07 AM
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Originally Posted by Reality
nodody's falling for that when ajm is already watching the thread
his senses have been "dulled"
the bar has been lowerd
shoot to score!!
23 August 2005, 11:30 AM
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You boys are tough
The guy is obviously emotive right now, to the point of delusive conclusions where if he can't get back with his wife, then his life is over. His life will never be the same again - and its all his fault. No wonder he is feeling down. Not only that but he is feeling remorse for all the hurt he has caused his wife, but on top of that he is in mourning of the relationship he had with his wife. It is dead and will never be the same again, even if she did take him back.
Thats a lot of depressive emotions right now
But if his head is screwed on, once sober he will realise that life goes on, and his life will recover. it'll be slow though and there is no magic thing that can happen that will make life wonderful again tomorrow. At the time of his post he had delusions that getting back with the wife is the sole road to making this all better. But it isn't. The wife doesn't think so either. hopefully he has friends, family and a boss that are sympathetic and are there to offer reasoned advice, although if its been 4 weeks now then perhaps professional help is in order. One thing is for sure he'll need some outsider to help talk things through if all his friends were joint friends with the wife etc and he feels pretty alienated right now.
If you can accept that relationship wise, your previous life is over and there is a better happier alternative that will take a long time to forge, then you've turned the corner
23 August 2005, 12:03 PM
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Good job I didn't read this at 06:30, I'd have handed him the rope
23 August 2005, 12:16 PM
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Originally Posted by SJ_Skyline
Sorry if this sounds harsh but I have more sympathy for TP's wife who he cheated on.