If both people agree to an "open marriage" then great but this isnt the case and she will hurt him deeply when she gets found out. what has he done to deserve this?

Any body who gets cheated on gets treated badly why people cant be honest and just say to their partner we have problems or i dont love you any more and either sort it out or leave them.

 

Cheating is wrong I've had it done to me and it took me years to recover and even at that I'm still not the same person I was before! Having your heart ripped out of your *** and jumped up and down on in front of you is a 'turning point' for most!!

I just can't understand it sometimes: I know a guy who's wife is drop dead, seems loving, trusting, has a well paid job, they have a lovely house and yet he has slept with at LEAST 50 (fifty) different lasses in the last year (some of which in his own bed). He goes out, finds someone that is usually stinking and then ***** her!!! Me and my other mates can't understand why he does this with such a wonderful wife I'd expect if she found out the amount of people he's slept with since he said, 'I do' she'd have a heart attack!!

 

Ive done it Quite a few times in my younger days,I must admit it seemed like a good idea at the time, gaining some comfort from the "standing ****** have no concience" rule.
However I didn't feel good about myself in the cold light of day,especially with the lying to my partner that inevitably ensues. I dont think I would do it now, I cant decide if its because I'm too old and wrinkly and the opportunities dont come my way or I've developed a concience, maybe a bit of both.
But I must say if the situation arises and its layed out on a plate it's difficult to resist.
I wouldn't say anything to your friend because it often backfires and you can lose friends. Its a possibility that he may know anyway. theirs nout so strange as folk.

 

Saxo Boy well said.

The jumping up and down as they seem to take pleasure in humilating you in front of your friends as well

 

Reading this thread just reinforces my attitude towards not having kids, after all they seem to be the biggest losers in most cases

very sad

andy

 

My personal opinion is that it can happen, it does happen, and the chances are that it will at some point. A proper relationship is worth more than a quick ****, so it's best to avoid the quick ****. However if something happens in the heat of the moment, I don't think you necessarily have to put your relationship in the bin.

 

But you must put the condom there.

 

Definitely. Can help to wrap it up in an empty crisp packet so she doesn't notice it if she happens to empty the bin before you get round to it. Otherwise you just have to fall back on the "posh w*nk" excuse.

 

never done it myself

had it done against me tho, it was pretty ****ty

most of my mates seam to do it as well

 

Huge dilemma now. She wants me to look after her little boy and tell her O/H she's been with me today if he asks while she's off sh*gging in some cheap hotel. She's supposed to be my friend but I don't want to lie. What am I going to do?

 

tell her to **** off

 

PC - Otherwise you just have to fall back on the "posh w*nk" excuse

FPMSL

 

Told her I won't look after her son or lie for her. Can't believe she says she's gonna take him with her. He's 3 and will be so confused. End of my long friendship with her I think. Very Sad.

 

Stand your ground.

She'll be back when he moves onto the next one . Trouble is, will you still be there for her?

 

What's with the "open marriage" thing? What a complete load of bollocks

If you get married you are commiting yourself to that person, foregoing all others. Perhaps I'm just a traditionalist in this respect, but FFS, if you want to **** around why bother getting married?

 

Well put.

Les

 

Thank you Les.....good to see there are some of us here who still have this view

 

There are always temptations thrown at you that could lead you astray. I'm sure many people have been put in that predicament. I think it's down to the morals and personality of individuals whether they actually decide to go ahead and cheat knowingly on their partner.

What you've got to ask yourself before doing something like that is, "how would I feel if my partner did found out about this ?"

If you can stand the risk of hurting/losing that person then fair enough. Sounds pretty callous and self centred though.

Also, if you're cheating, how would you react if you found your partner had too ?

Once found out as a cheat, you'll find it very rare to ever be trusted again IMO.

Best way to handle it is go off somewhere private (on your own) and cheat in your imagination. Just make sure you're armed with loads of tissue paper

 

'tis true, marriage is an exchange of vows but, people/situations/life changes as you go on.
next thing you know you are waking up next to freddie krugers mother and wondering what the **** has gone on.
also flirting with birds is part of man's genetic makeup and a confidence booster if it goes well.
next thing you know your in a hotel room with your **** going like a fiddlers elbow feeling guilty.

as someone told me earlier about affairs.
all that happens if you do decide to jump ship is you substitute one pain in the **** for another.

like smoking its best not to start, but curiousity WILL get the better of "most" people, i am sure....

i fank you.

The Reverend Beemerboy.

 

....and if you don't really care and still choose to go ahead with it, then your relationship means nothing anyway so you may as well do your partner the favour and end it. They can therefore go out and find someone who does care about them.....

Dave

 

Okay - so what would anyone do if they found out that their other half has the thought/intention of cheating?

 

Thinkin about it and doin it are two completely different things. If it's thought about and they then decide no.....don't want to hurt partner / don't want to lose what they have together, then fine-the commitment has won over the temptation.

 

bollocks, grass the stupid slag/tart/infidel up to the other half.

imagine it was your other half discuyssing this about you on the open net?!

 

what pisses me off is that there are loads of really nice women out there being f*cked over by c*nts cheating on them and that just limits the numbers for all the decent single people

 

Honest answer:

If it was a one night stand type of thing I would be a bit surprised but basically suggest that we put it behind us. My own track record isn't entirely spotless in the respect so I couldn't get too high and mighty about it.

If it was an ongoing affair type thing I would be even more surprised, and basically ask her wtf she was thinking. It would then be a question of trying to work out where to go from there (i.e. stop having the affair and get back to your family ffs).

In either circumstance I would hope that we wouldn't separate as I genuinely believe that husband/wife + kids is worth more than a bit on the side.

 

errr,
this is about a woman doing the dirty on a man.
its not one-way traffic you know

 

If you are single and her husband if fit sh@g the living hell out of him and send her a copy of the tape - see how she likes the hard facts of cheating!

 

lol! I am single and he is fit but I won't lower myself to her level

 

Did i just hear the word single????

 

Cue the sharks :P