Yep, the contribution is nowhere near 40% now for “new “ cases-usually 15-20%

I managed to come to an agreement with my ex to avoid the CSA being involved (easier if you wish to borrow again in the future)

Regards the house, the key thing is, did you buy the house as partners, or did you already own it when you met her, then she moved in etc?/

If you bought it as a couple (which im guessing you didn’t), then she has a strong claim on the house, and you’d have trouble selling/splitting it, especially as the child is so young

However, if you owned it before you met her, then she moved in, had child etc, she has to prove via the courts of her entitlement to her rights/share of the house.

In the mean time, if she does go down that route, sell the house,bank the money in your parents account …..your just paying them (the parents) off for all the money you’ve owned them over the years………..

Ideally you want her working, and not claiming benefits, and hopefully that’s her intention.

What you need to do, for the kid’s sake and to make all your lives easier is to support the child, as much emotionally as monetary

I have my lill ‘un every other weekend, and basically my ex relies on me, if I didn’t, she couldn’t continue with her job

Lastly, don’t panic straight away and sell the scoob, see what happens, I worried when my relationship split up, but I kept my ‘busa, if you’ve got your toy or hobby, its helps to keep your soul alive on a crappy day, know what I mean?....and I get to ride my bike more or less when I want, go out when I want, single life has its plus sides too!

.and on a lighter note, I too got caught out by the “I ‘fink I forgot to take the pill a few times that month” type of no-brain female of the species, the trick is to date women, not girls, my latest squeeze can do more in a few hours than my divvy ex could in a month……but we guys learn the hard way sometimes!

Once you get thru this sticky period, you’ll feel better than ever m8

 

I know it may sound off but the one thing you need to watch for is that your child doesnt get stuck in the middle. We always hear the famous 'your not seeing your daughter then!!' if my boyfriend says no to a favour or money requests off his ex and its horrible. I think this is the worst card a mother can play. I'm not saying your ex is like that but its amazing how many people do this.

 

gjl

 

I've read a bit about what happens to the care of a child if the parents split up but were never married. Was amazed at how little say the Father gets, can move abroad, change the child's surname etc etc with no hassle. Does this mean that if you split when you are pregnant with the child that the father can just bugger off and never see its child or support its child if he wants to?

 

Don't worry to much m8, do not sell your Scooby as thats your freedom and hobby you'll never forgive yourself.

My ex-missus done exactly the same, I went to CAB for advice, and as we know common-in-law wife is bollox however you do have a right to provide a roof for your child if you have a house, you still do not have to pay the full amount of mortgage each month though,so I sold the house and banked the money, she went back to her mums and I see my daughter every 2 weeks, they are 210 miles away,

It kills me to see my daughter living in a place of how shall we say not as hygenic as I would like........however I now have my own place in which she stays and my bitch of an ex-missus does not have a roof provided by me.

You have got to be hard about this and you will become more attached to your daughter/son as they grow older but don't let your ex get things to easy.

I even buy my daughter clothers etc and keep them at mine, just so my ex does not get them to put on her, when I am in front of my daughter with my ex I also act the way a father should but she knows how I feel,

Fight it mate dont let her **** you over. I now pay an agreed price and enjoy my freedom and quality of life a man should and I'll never make the same mistake again. Sell the house asap

 

im so sorry to hear that mate, theirs no law protecting the fathers rights u need to take it by force, b@stard government

but if your ex is a decent person she will be good to u and let the kid stay with u for a few days a week

woman tend to f**ck a man over big time