Need a solicitor
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guys looks like I'm gonna need a soliscitor....I've tried to work out the marriage but it's not happening.....
Anyone here know details of a good one in the west/north west London Area...
Also are there any site of centres (CAB etc) that I can visit for free advice.....
thanks
Anyone here know details of a good one in the west/north west London Area...
Also are there any site of centres (CAB etc) that I can visit for free advice.....
thanks
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been there and done that.. My (ex) wife and myself used a mutual and trusted friend to sit down with and agree what was fair between us.. It all ended up pretty well sorted without anyone making money out of what was an already costly, money and emotional, situation..
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I some how don't think mine will be that simple (no kids); but I reckon the mother in law will want to 'rise' me off all I have even if the missus i happy to talk it through!!!!!
thanks all the same....PS how long did the whole process take?
thanks all the same....PS how long did the whole process take?
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Took us about a month to agree things... and about a month to actually split the finances.. policies etc etc... We had no kids either.. and eventually just divorced on grounds of seperation as that saved mud slinging and neither of us had any desire to jump back in...
Good luck however it goes
Good luck however it goes
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Managed to sort mine without a solicitor, no kids just posessions to sort out. We both agreed it this way, no point in paying through the nose for something that we could do ourselves.
Alpines way sounds like a good solution if you can both agree on it.
good luck
Alpines way sounds like a good solution if you can both agree on it.
good luck
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I think this is why it costs SO much if you get solicitors involved.. because both parties are paying.. this raises the expectations of what you are likely to achieve.. Also there appears to be no hard and fast rules..
I was advised that what I had prior to entering the marriage could be taken into account.. ie if I already had 100k assets.. at end of relationship I had 150k assets, that it would be the 50 that was liable to 50/50 split.. this IS BY NO MEANS GUARANTEED...
What we started by doing was together creating a list of ALL our assets... we then took the list away and individually split this into stuff we wanted to keep and stuff we were prepared to give on... Our intermediary split this down and anything that we couldn't agree on we sold and split the dosh.. There was a lot of negotiation here.. It worked and was mostly pain free... We were both reasonable and to be fair my ex wasn't seeking to benefit financially so I kept my cars.. which I had prior to us meeting...
I was advised that what I had prior to entering the marriage could be taken into account.. ie if I already had 100k assets.. at end of relationship I had 150k assets, that it would be the 50 that was liable to 50/50 split.. this IS BY NO MEANS GUARANTEED...
What we started by doing was together creating a list of ALL our assets... we then took the list away and individually split this into stuff we wanted to keep and stuff we were prepared to give on... Our intermediary split this down and anything that we couldn't agree on we sold and split the dosh.. There was a lot of negotiation here.. It worked and was mostly pain free... We were both reasonable and to be fair my ex wasn't seeking to benefit financially so I kept my cars.. which I had prior to us meeting...
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I'm mostly concerned about my flat was worth about 100k when I brought it a couple of months before marriage....now worth well over 160K.......
I reckon the mother in law will persuade the missus to ask 4 at least 30K....
I reckon the mother in law will persuade the missus to ask 4 at least 30K....
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bing-bonger,
Site for the CAB http://www.nacab.org.uk/
The Law Society's site - will give you legit company's in your area via search http://www.lawsociety.co.uk/
All the best
KimA
[Edited by KimA - 4/24/2002 5:09:00 PM]
Site for the CAB http://www.nacab.org.uk/
The Law Society's site - will give you legit company's in your area via search http://www.lawsociety.co.uk/
All the best
KimA
[Edited by KimA - 4/24/2002 5:09:00 PM]
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did your ex-contribute to the cost of the mortgage? (presuming there) If she did I reckon you'll be moving...
My ex didn't contribute to cost of house or up-keep / development of property so would have felt cheap asking for this.. I reckon that made me lucky..
My ex didn't contribute to cost of house or up-keep / development of property so would have felt cheap asking for this.. I reckon that made me lucky..
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I have some bad news m8, if she wants to get nasty you are fooked my friend, my ex did **** all in terms of monetary contributions to anything, I paid the lot and she still got 50% of everything! Admittedly we had our son as the main concern and this made it all very messy and probably why she was entitled to so much of the assets. However watch solicitors, we did finally come to agree on assets being split ourselves on the basis we both recognised our respective solictors were bent on dragging it out for as long as possible to earn as much fees as possible and this forced us to talk and come to an agreement!
Be careful, very careful, because you could lose an awful lot of ground that you thought automatically belonged to you! REMEMBER TO AIM HIGH, AND THEN YOU HAVE GROUND TO CONCEDE THAT YOU NEVER REALLY WANTED IN THE FIRST PLACE BUT STILL MAKES YOU LOOK AS THOUGH YOU ARE BEING REASONABLE!
I am sorry you have such an awful thing to go through, it was sheer hell for me, I just hope you get things sorted amicably.
All the best!
P.S. Never again for me
I have some bad news m8, if she wants to get nasty you are fooked my friend, my ex did **** all in terms of monetary contributions to anything, I paid the lot and she still got 50% of everything! Admittedly we had our son as the main concern and this made it all very messy and probably why she was entitled to so much of the assets. However watch solicitors, we did finally come to agree on assets being split ourselves on the basis we both recognised our respective solictors were bent on dragging it out for as long as possible to earn as much fees as possible and this forced us to talk and come to an agreement!
Be careful, very careful, because you could lose an awful lot of ground that you thought automatically belonged to you! REMEMBER TO AIM HIGH, AND THEN YOU HAVE GROUND TO CONCEDE THAT YOU NEVER REALLY WANTED IN THE FIRST PLACE BUT STILL MAKES YOU LOOK AS THOUGH YOU ARE BEING REASONABLE!
I am sorry you have such an awful thing to go through, it was sheer hell for me, I just hope you get things sorted amicably.
All the best!
P.S. Never again for me
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The golden rule is keep in contact with your ex. If you can remain in contact with each other during the divorce process then you will save a load of hassle and expense.
Solicitors start at £100 per hour, I am paying £125 per hour for what is a straight split. There are some real horror stories if the $hit starts flying so try not to fall out.
I know what you are going through, but it will get better. Mail me direct if I can help.
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Solicitors start at £100 per hour, I am paying £125 per hour for what is a straight split. There are some real horror stories if the $hit starts flying so try not to fall out.
I know what you are going through, but it will get better. Mail me direct if I can help.
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For anyone who owns a property on their own, whether or not they have a mortgage, give your parents a limitless charge on said property. You split with a new woman 2 years into a relationship, there is no equity in the property, even if the divorce forces a sale, all equity goes to your parents.
It is then up to your parents to give you your cash back to start again
It is then up to your parents to give you your cash back to start again
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Going through the same at the moment with my misses. I have walked away from the house and all the contents (material thing) after being thrown out in a drunken stupper by her brother and father. I've decided she and the girls can have the lot, as I can replace it all. Pisses me off that the CSA can get involved (four daughters) and **** things up. Her family haven't helped the situation at all!!! All I have at the moment is my clothes and PS 2 
I'm not sure if I should go and seek legal advise on all this, but haven't todate!
It's annoying that they (wife) can make your life misery to the point that you need to do something about it (i.e. leave), yet as a man you can't really kick her out and look after your own children. She has been a little pissy about access to the children so far, but I hope this changes soon.
Cheers Phill C
I'm not sure if I should go and seek legal advise on all this, but haven't todate!
It's annoying that they (wife) can make your life misery to the point that you need to do something about it (i.e. leave), yet as a man you can't really kick her out and look after your own children. She has been a little pissy about access to the children so far, but I hope this changes soon.
Cheers Phill C
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what happens if I change the locks and send her back to the out-laws.....ooops I mean in-laws. We have no kids so 'legaly' do have have to let her back in? Can she send me to the streets for that?
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My misses family took all my keys off me when I was pissed up and my misses refused to return them. She went to the CAB, and they said that you can't take the keys from the other party, and you can't change the locks, without a restraining order, and your unlikely to get that, lol. Depends on the circumstances, I think.
I told her that I took legal advise (not) and they said that she can't keep them and they were promply returned.
Cheers Phill C
I told her that I took legal advise
(not) and they said that she can't keep them and they were promply returned.Cheers Phill C
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