Sorry to hear it, must be very tricky. Mates beer and new ladies must help a bit. :)

Watch out though, i don't think you are allowed to talk about mens emotional problems on this board. ;)

Roy.

(staying silent, having nothing to say about this or IVF)

[Edited by wiltshire_boy - 6/2/2003 2:18:08 AM]

... of 9 years. It was a mutual decision to part, we are both miserably unhappy and it was starting to affect our 2 boys (2.5 and 4.5 years).

This weekend was my first weekend with them. it was lovely, but as they walked away from my car with their mom this afternoon I was in a mess. thanks to the abismal m3 traffic for distracting me on my way back to surrey.

I know others must have been through this. It was an amicable split, but I'm a bit of a mess for having to come to the hard truth of not being able to live with my kids!

I intend to keep a strict and frequent visiting routine and logically I think they'll have a better relationship with me for it.

What I want to know is what others in this situation did to move on? I was thinking of getting my bike license, but I'm not that flush even before the CSA get to me. I need not to be feeling sorry for myself and wonder what others do/did to step into a new life?

Is joining a gym good for a bit of social contact? any ideas?

It takes time mate.

Did the same thing about 5yrs ago and it took me abut a year to get back to 'normal'.

On reflection it's the best thing I ever did cos I was with someone that I would have ended up hating and vice verca.

Had lots of *fun* since then! It makes you weary of relationships.

Get yer tackle out and see what bites.

Good luck.

Find a good reliable freind to bounce off now and again (and i dont mean Shag) someone you can talk to.

That will really help.

All the very best

Sorry to hear this mike :(

Si

Fosters

Sorry to hear your news

It happened to me 8 years ago i'd been married 7 years my missus and our 7 month old son went to see her parents in Brazil and never came back, now i get to see my son once a year if i can afford it and saying goodbye after a visit doesnt get any easier, so i can empathise with you there, still im on line now waiting for him on messenger so it aint all bad.
After three years of oblivion I got my 5hit together and met my Fiance who said at the start she didnt want kids but in 8 weeks time were expecting our first, so even after the bad bad times good times will always turn up, and thats coming from a pesimist (sp?) its gonna hurt like hell for the next few months but as the old saying goes time is a great healer as are plenty of other things. Chin up and hang on in there.

get your mates round once a week with a few cans and get totally legless !!
one night a week on the pull

and the next modle is always better than the ex:D
and polish the scoob to make you :D

every relationship can only be better than the last one

Really?

Fosters, a shame this has happened.

As it's an amicable split I see no reason why the CSA will get involved if you agree an amount with your EX.

The CSA get involved if you do a runner and don't pay any support or the women is very vindictive if you have agreed an amount.

Takes time mate and very good friends. My ex was having an affair with my best mate who was work colleage to. I gave him a good hiding ( spent night in cell for it )kicked her out. This was 13 years ago. Take one day at a time, for a while you will have 7 bad days then after a while you will have 6 bad and 1 good and so it goes on. Good mates and loads of time is a very good healer, trust me