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SwissTony 08 June 2012 08:50 PM


Originally Posted by tony de wonderful (Post 10656903)
Could he wear a gardening glove? That way he is not actually touching the women.

Oven glove :thumb:

J4CKO 08 June 2012 09:11 PM

Hmm, playing devils advocate here but,

http://www.itv.com/news/2012-05-09/n...s-young-as-13/

Terminator X 08 June 2012 09:23 PM


Originally Posted by J4CKO (Post 10656965)
Hmm, playing devils advocate here but,

http://www.itv.com/news/2012-05-09/n...s-young-as-13/

Probably didn't shake their hand though ...

TX.

petethemeat 08 June 2012 09:29 PM


Originally Posted by Littleted (Post 10656873)
Answer below

in our religioun that is considered haram meaning forbidden for the reason that a woman is a sacred thing as the quran mentions and should only be touched by her husband...

But thanks for all views, i think personally i,ll inform his boss again to seek HR advice and let the lad crack on, if it effects me in anyway then i,ll address accordingly

Cheers guys

^ even a non Muslim woman who doesn't have a clue what the quran says? Sounds like a tenuous link to me unless the Woman he didn't shake hands with was a Muslim .

Have you asked him why he doesn't do the hand shaking thing ?

petethemeat 08 June 2012 09:34 PM


Originally Posted by classic Subaru Si (Post 10656783)
Oh, and before I get accused of the obvious, when I said these fcukers, I meant the militant, totally deluded brainwashed minority of Asians that are hell bent on taking over the world.

I read your quote above , went back to your original paragraph and re-read it and nearly spat my coffee everywhere. Sorry but it made me chuckle :)

Dingdongler 08 June 2012 09:51 PM

Sounds like this guy needs a good butt kicking!! Makes me mad with rage!! Post his address on here and we'll form a posse and lynch his ass!

Who's with me?

Jaybird-UK 08 June 2012 09:53 PM

tell him that the management have decided this is now part of his uniform
http://www.whitegadget.com/attachmen...gloves-pic.jpg

markjmd 08 June 2012 10:05 PM

What the guy did would be standard practise in Saudi, although it's also a bit of a moot point since women are basically banned from the business world there.

The obvious problem then is that he isn't in Saudi, so I suggest you forward him this link, and have a whip-round in the office to sponsor his trip :thumb:

JTaylor 08 June 2012 10:13 PM

Why do people use the word 'Asian'? There are four billion 'Asians' knocking around on the planet which surely renders the adjective meaningless.

juggers 08 June 2012 10:29 PM


Originally Posted by Jaybird-UK (Post 10657040)
tell him that the management have decided this is now part of his uniform
http://www.whitegadget.com/attachmen...gloves-pic.jpg

pmsl


Originally Posted by JTaylor (Post 10657079)
Why do people use the word 'Asian'? There are four billion 'Asians' knocking around on the planet which surely renders the adjective meaningless.

It's a respect thing unless you have the permission of the girl or the girls family we can not just willy nilly interact with women. Yes you may think it's silly and extreme, but it's there to protect the respect of a woman.

However living in England we are told to respect the law of the land in Islam so his actions are totally disrespectful.

Best thing to do is pull him to aside and explain the situation. And basically stop being a knob.

juggers 08 June 2012 10:30 PM


Originally Posted by scoobywho2 (Post 10656819)
I would pull him to one side explain to him what he did was offensive in "British" culture and that if he didn't sort his act out his working life is going to be made difficult.


:thumb:

tarmac terror 08 June 2012 10:38 PM

why can't the guy just explain his reason for not shaking someone's hand? I had a real heavy cold for most of December, I had to meet will male and female business associates throughout this time, and while I would usually shake their hands on joining and leaving their company, I explained that I would spare them the risk of passing my germs to them by not shaking hands with them.

If someone at a senior level in a company gets offended by this, they need to have a word with themselves. It never ceases to amaze me what offends some people.

tony de wonderful 08 June 2012 10:38 PM


Originally Posted by juggers (Post 10657115)
Yes you may think it's silly and extreme, but it's there to protect the respect of a woman.


Are women not capable of handling themselves?

hodgy0_2 08 June 2012 10:52 PM


Originally Posted by tony de wonderful (Post 10657136)
Are women not capable of handling themselves?

i believe they are

Jaybird-UK 08 June 2012 11:02 PM


Originally Posted by tony de wonderful (Post 10657136)
Are women not capable of handling themselves?


Originally Posted by hodgy0_2 (Post 10657167)
i believe they are

I've seen videos of this :norty::norty::norty:

AbbasSTI 08 June 2012 11:19 PM

I also have not shook a female hand for many years :p
There is no difference of opinion on this in Islaam. It is forbidden & rejected. When the situation arises, I explain that it is forbidden in Islaam to touch a female who is not a relation & we Muslims suffice ourselves with what is legislated for us, in other words, verbal greetings such as "Hello! Nice to meet you :)" I don't think this has ever caused me to loose any business, or left the the lady who was left hanging feeling that I'm a "sexist" :Suspiciou

tony de wonderful 08 June 2012 11:40 PM


Originally Posted by AbbasSTI (Post 10657203)
I also have not shook a female hand for many years :p
There is no difference of opinion on this in Islaam. It is forbidden & rejected. When the situation arises, I explain that it is forbidden in Islaam to touch a female who is not a relation & we Muslims suffice ourselves with what is legislated for us, in other words, verbal greetings such as "Hello! Nice to meet you :)" I don't think this has ever caused me to loose any business, or left the the lady who was left hanging feeling that I'm a "sexist" :Suspiciou

You do realise this is just an archaic cultural norm?

Beastie 08 June 2012 11:46 PM

Maybe instead of shaking the womans hand he could present her with a gift?

i.e. I am sorry but my religion does not allow me to touch your hand, but please accept this gift of a company motto memory stick as my sincere form of greeting .....

What you think?? :thumb:

eggy790 09 June 2012 12:13 AM

i also have also not shook a womens hand in many years at work. best way about it is to explain or just walk int he room with a tissue, ive noticed whether you have a cold or not they dont tend to put their hand out to shake your hand anyway. and no one gets offended to it.

the above is also a good alternative, i quite like that idea and may use it in future, a gift to make it forgotten :)

eggy790 09 June 2012 12:14 AM

as for the chaps taking 1.5 hours for jummah, thats taking the mick. i arrange lunch around the prayers.. so you only ever take the prayers in your own time.

eggy790 09 June 2012 12:18 AM


Originally Posted by tony de wonderful (Post 10657221)
You do realise this is just an archaic cultural norm?

reason we dont is nothing to do with culture

Lisawrx 09 June 2012 12:28 AM


Originally Posted by eggy790 (Post 10657253)
reason we dont is nothing to do with culture

No disrespect, but what is the reason?

f1_fan 09 June 2012 12:36 AM


Originally Posted by Littleted (Post 10656669)
Guys ive got 3 new grads in my team one is a muslim who practices, he has to pray between i think 1 and 5 but also wont shake a womens hand.

Personally the guys is a good lad works hard

But ive had his boss on asking about this hand shaking issue, i dont see it an issue if thats his beliefs but the job role hes in is very customer facing not sales but consultancy.

Ive told his boss if hes any issues then he needs to speak to HR about it, and from my standpoint hes fine.

I think the reason the boss is keeping tabs on him is he met a high up VP and didnt shake her hand, which after the meeting she commented on the way he delt with it,

Obviously i know why he didnt but in the business world some dont and would precieve this as being rude.

Reason im asking is have any of you or do any of you have this and how do you cater or address it. Im trying to stay calm with the boss, but i can see a slight move towards making this young lads world hard. Religion is hard in business and although i know how it works, as i said above alot would just see it as rude, and it may effect his career.

Any advice welcome

Ted

He doesn't live next door to a cafe does he? One that recently redirected their extractor fan to point at his window? :)

Anyway why tell us when the Daily Mail would be even more receptive? :)

Lee247 09 June 2012 01:44 AM


Originally Posted by AbbasSTI (Post 10657203)
I also have not shook a female hand for many years :p
There is no difference of opinion on this in Islaam. It is forbidden & rejected. When the situation arises, I explain that it is forbidden in Islaam to touch a female who is not a relation & we Muslims suffice ourselves with what is legislated for us, in other words, verbal greetings such as "Hello! Nice to meet you :)" I don't think this has ever caused me to loose any business, or left the the lady who was left hanging feeling that I'm a "sexist" :Suspiciou

I accept your belief, but if you are living in my Country, accept mine. If you can't, I suggest you return to your Country and carry on your beliefs :)

Sti Addict 09 June 2012 03:01 AM

which law is being broken by not shaking hands? My sister is a solicitor and she hasnt heard of any law of this nature. Is the previous poster a foreign national and not a citizen of this country? What do you want from these people? Should they act like the majority and get pissed, cause fights, piss in the bins, try to get laid with anything that moves, claim its love, then get somebody else and say I was drunk, repeat this every weekend and then blame other people because they havent got anywhere in life? How british do you have to be, to be british?

Davey96wrx 09 June 2012 04:44 AM

There is no law being broken, obviously!

But it is a lack of respect towards our western beliefs and customs that makes most of us angry, it is our country and it would be respectful to adhere to some integration.

You are offending us!

JTaylor 09 June 2012 08:17 AM


Originally Posted by BugSti Malone (Post 10657322)
which law is being broken by not shaking hands? My sister is a solicitor and she hasnt heard of any law of this nature. Is the previous poster a foreign national and not a citizen of this country? What do you want from these people? Should they act like the majority and get pissed, cause fights, piss in the bins, try to get laid with anything that moves, claim its love, then get somebody else and say I was drunk, repeat this every weekend and then blame other people because they havent got anywhere in life? How british do you have to be, to be british?

I think you're confusing British and Glaswegian, Mr Malone.

ditchmyster 09 June 2012 08:41 AM

This is like so many things in life, a personal choice, i have travelled with muslims who are involved in tourism and go to many different countries as part of their business, they have no problem with adjusting according to the customs of the country they are in.

The problem as i see it rightly or wrongly, is this new age muslim radical types that want to have it every which way, and any deviation from their personal interpretation of the koran is seen as an affront to their religion.

There are passages in the koran that allow for muslims to do/eat and adjust accordingly for whatever is necessary for survival, but the militants/ idiots choose to ignore them.

I have muslims from all over the world staying with me as home stays studying at a very high level, mostly PHD and international projects of one form or another, what always makes me chuckel is when we have one they are very liberal as no 5am wake up prayers, most don't pray at all, eat anything and i mean anything, quite often want to try bacon and sausages, don't care if it's halal or not, drink alcohol, smoke, page three of the sun is a treat not to be missed ect, ect.

Then as soon as there are two of them you hear the alarm in the morning, more often than not a phone tune of the mosque call to prayer, then the inquiries about halal food start, and the formalities of speech/meet and greet and religion kicks in, they pray together, go to mosque on fridays and become different people.

Then when either of them leaves the other turns into a westernised liberal.

I'm talking about muslims from countries like saudi, libya, oman,jordan the
list goes on, but you get the gist.

I'm sure i'll get jumped on, but this is my personal experience over many years of traveling and hosting, so say what you will, it is what it is, and it's very rare to find one that does not deviate, in fact i only ever met two and both were beduins, one in egypt and the other from saudi, and i have had close contact all my life, since i could walk next door from my grans to eat fresh chapaties and pakora at the age of 3yrs.:thumb:

fatscoobfella1 09 June 2012 08:49 AM

The group of muslims in Rochdale didnt shake any young girls hands...

They just drug them and sh@g them...

Wonder how that would go down in a business meeting?

Its all archaic nonsense.......And if im sure about one thing,its not "respect" for the women that causes muslims indifference to the opposite gender..

Maz 09 June 2012 08:53 AM


Originally Posted by Littleted (Post 10656895)
My company is 98000 big i didnt employ him they did, i was doing a project and needed bodies, i was sent 3 grads.

As i said above hes good but this incident is and will effect him race card or not.

I just wanted to see if any muslims who are fellow scooby drivers could shed any light on the fact that is he being daft or is he being strict

I personally don't have a problem shaking hands with man, woman or beast. I think this lad is being overly pious and non conformist. If he wants to do this let him do it in his own time. There is no reason he should be compromising other people and making the company look bad.


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