yeah, that's what happened to me! :mad:

I'm sorry if you thought I was patronising..it wasn't intentional. I have a grand daughter and I watch my son doing exactly as I did to bring up his daughter...with all the knowledge of today, from all the resources at hand....and he still asks my advice...and accepts it. It isn't a battle between us of who has the best answer. Every generation will try to improve on the previous one and, like fashion, it will go in circles. Parents are remembered for all their faults and as each child grows up he/she turns into their parent and might bow their head at their own presumptiousness.

IMHO

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If you believe the press then all you need is the above..

Life is not a bed of roses. He needs a smart slap on the backside and a further punishment that will affect his thinking if he does not sort himself out.

Les

I don't use naughty step for our terrors, if I was faced with the situation you described they would just get put into pyjamas and straight to bed.

Not sure about naughty step, my wife has used it once or twice for our 5 year old but I think the punishment is shame, something that a 2 year old doesn't "get" (read understand). Our 2 year old gets put in her room, till she stops crying (which she will do when put in there), this can be 5 minutes or longer until she is allowed out.

The threat of being sent to her room is normally enough now.

Taking away a favourite toy seemed to work for us,we lived in a bungalow tho.Further tantrums further toys. Dont know but it worked for us.Good luck.

I'll go along with this. A good ignoring seems to work if mine (just over 2) is being silent or being noisy. Especially if you then leave hijm alone in that room ....

The old distraction method also works. 'Hey, look at that bird in the garden ,, ' etc etc

Haven't tried the naughty step yet. At 2 ours is on the move from the minute he wakes to the minute he goes to bed. he would not stay on a NS ...

Dave

Have to say that the naughty step works in the majority of cases here

It isnt punishment as such, it is a timeout for the kids to reflect on what they have done wrong,

Sometimes they try and 'play' when on the stairs, and as such further time is added until they stop and sit quiet, and are ready to apologise

I know it doesnt work for everyone, but the kids do hate having to go on the stairs, they see it as a form of punishment as it stops them doing the stuff they enjoy

further outbursts are usually followed by denial of privelleges like going to after school activities, or staying on the stairs till bedtime, or an early bedtime if they have already eaten

These steps (no pun intended) generally work with us, and havent come up with a better way of dealing with the kids when they do wrong

BTW I have never seen Super Nanny

Oh and for those who disbelieve this method, doing timeout and being put on a wrist strap, when out shopping is fun, and works too, as there is the added embarrament factor so tantrums/playing up etc dont last too long when out in the public :)

4 minutes on low tumble dry seems to work for us

I just got the slipper when I was younger, never did me no harm :D

a nuaghty step? :lol:

Thats the stupidest fookin ****e ive heard in a long time. LOL and only two minutes. Your kids gonna run you in a couple years. :lol:

a good smack never did me any harm ...:thumb:

exactly :thumb:

:lol1:
He is at the battle of wills stage. It does get better, honest.
Sorry, I meant ignore him when he is starting his antics. He'll soon learn if he acts bad he gets no attention, if he acts good, kisses all round. :)

Good job that spunk of yours didn't quite make it ;)

He's a jaffa! :lol1:

Les, he's a little 2 year old and not an ASBO-qualifying teenager FFS!!
Then again, he once hit his mum in anger and got a solid slap on the offending hand from his dad and has never done it again!

This is exactly why you should be allowed to smack your child! If I did something wrong and got smacked for it then it sunk in that I probably should not do whatever it was again, or I'll be smacked again.

As for the naughty step, not sure I agree with that, much better to make them kneel in the corner of the hallway, facing the corner, for at least 30 mins, if not an hour.

Naughty step works for my 2-year-old girl. We're lucky we have a hall where we can close her in completely... no escape back into the lounge or kitchen. She does biatch about being on the step, but calms down after a few seconds.

Every time she starts to play up, I just tell her she's going on the step. She says, "I don't want to go on the step", so I say behave then, and she does. I'm sure this will change in the future.

I used to get a damn good whack from Dad, or thrown into my room for hours, not to mention slapped legs or being sent to bed with no dinner! How times have changed.

Talking of naughty step... my wife pranged her Fezzy on Wednesday. When I told my little girl she said "Mummy is very naughty, she has to go on the naughty step".

My wife will be going on more than the bl**dy naughty step I can tell you!

J.

PMSL :lol1: :lol1:

Oh fond memories of that shed:cry: and if you feckin cry you'll get a fecking slap side the ear if you carry on :lol1:

Stop fcuking around and pick the little blitter up and put him in the bath, don't pussy foot around with which step do you want to fooking sit on, Jesus Christ he's 2 not 22 :rolleyes:

Terrible twos? No No No No No.:idea:

It's the 'Troublesome twos' - enjoy iy it before you get to the Terrible threes;) .

Then, and only then, it's the phookin fours:thumb: :cry: Take it easy.

andy

You mean I should try to get him to pray his way out out of trouble? ;)


I think you should put her over your knee? :norty:



Should I carry him back from the bathroom as well? And maybe carry him downstairs in the morning when he refuses to go then, too? I think you might ever so slightly be missing the point here chap. :o

Sounds like that all too familiar case of boundary-pushing. Bit like a game of poker, seeing who will fold first :D
We find (as I'm sure other parents do to) each kid tries to push differently (there's no apparent knowledge forum between them, such as a FAQ, to determine boundaries ;) )


But, this also brings into question who is perceived as the ultimate authority figure in the household.... If your wife had have said it, would he have listened and obeyed?

My wife and I don't use the naughty step, as if my Wife can't get the kids (3 & 6) to "comply", I get involved.
A stern word usually works, but when the 3 yr-old is tired (she's started Nursery a couple of weeks ago, so this is quite apt!) she can revert back to the "terrible twos" state :(

Then it is a case of a short sharp smack on the bum - not even enough to really notice, but it's moreso the ritual of what will happen if they/she doesn't do as they're told.

This happened yesterday. 3yr old was over-tired from Nursery, and apparently (although I did chuckle to myself), she was a sh1tbag with our Childminder (:D) - her punishment was to sit on the naughty step (obviously, childminders can't smack)

When I came to pick her up, it blatantly obvious that she was tired. She played up whilst I was there, and the childminder backed off (she doesn't beleive in smacking her own kids too). Child was told. told again. Warned with the countdown from 3 otherwise there would be a "smack your bum"
Countdown came and went. She received a smack. She cried, but then wanted me to pick her up for a cuddle and to be put in the car seat.

But this is the exact same method that I was brought up with, and I'm (within reason) a perfectly normal person, not traumatised by being smacked as a child! :D


Dan :)

What if live in a bungalow and dont have a step??

intersting comments.:)

one comment though that makes me laugh, reasoning with a 3 year old!!

there children ffs, they dont understand the concept of reasoning, hence the predicament your in,

just leave them! after a while they get bored, once they realise you play mean hardball they wont do it again!!


mart