hi all about 2 years ago i lent the girlfriend at the time 1500£ to help her while at uni, about 18months after we split and now shes gone really nasty especially when i ask her about what she owes me, any ideas on if i can get this money back? nothing was signed only proof i have is my bankstatements but that doesnt mean anything, do i have any leg to stand on if i took it to small claims court or when to solicitors etc??


thanks

Rich

 

Got any naked pics of her?. made the mistake of lending my ex £500 to go on holiday,2 months after we got back she cheated on me and threw me out of my own flat. she told me not to expect any of the money i had lent her back,until i reminded her of some photos that might be winging their way to her parents if she didnt cough up. job done

 

Probably not worth the hassle, with solicitors and courts etc could cost more and no legal aid to fight the case but not sure, just be nice and ask her in a friendly manner

 

TBH, i know it hurts like ****, but forget about as it will be an awful lot of hassle. I've been in exactly the same situation and in the end, I just wrote it off

 

beat me to it
forgot to add a copy will also be posted on the net at nevestas.com

 

First thing that sprung to my mind when I read the problem too. Vex her head (somehow) and she'll be glad to give you it back.

 

You got away lightly IMHO

If you can REALLY afford to swallow the fifteen hundred big ones without it crippling you-it makes you the better person

You can sleep at night knowing you helped her when she needed it

She goes to sleep knowing shes a cheap what-car-credit skank ho' who had to fleece her boyfriend and she can have the stentch of being that skank for the rest of her days

If she goes through life borrowing without paying back she will be always be far far worse off than you

Onwards dear boy

 

Just the small matter of the massive illegality that is involved with blackmail.
astraboy.

 

that'll be the last thing on her mind when shes thinking about her parents getting hold of pic's showing her with a rampant rabbit in her exit 'ole

 

 

Good advice! Even tho the naked pics suggestion made me laugh

Easy for us to say though, eh?

NS04

 

Surely it's only a threat when you are recovering goods that technically belong to you. Once you've got the £1500 back and then demand a further £2000 for pissing you about, now that's blackmail.

 

**** the £1,500 - send the pics to her parents. Or maybe do one of those big "Birthday banners" for the end of her road .

 

Been through close to the same thing, went on holiday, bought her some nice stuff, got money to start renting a house, from family. She would never pay any back and gets nasty when you ask her about it.

There is always other ways, i have pics and a video, but it isnt worth the legalities to show people or post it..

Karma will come and get them in the end, i got mine, and now i am fine.

Even thoguh you loved them, you eally know actually how nice they are inside after something like this dont you

 

But if it were to, oh, I don't know, say.....accidently leak onto the net, that wouldn't be so bad would it?

 

Oh go on then

 

or she just wont give a ****... which sounds more likely from the first post..

 

what does this mean - what are her reasons for not paying you back???

 

Don't let the b1tch get away with it! Small claims court costs nothing

 

take her to small claims court.

they see this all the time

 

£50 small claims court fee.
Sorted.
She'll prolly pay up once she recieves the notice from the court.
Can do it all online now as well, do a search for Money Claim Online.

 

Beat me to it

May as well hand 'em round.

 

after the loan 18 months went past without re-payment.....was it discussed? how/when where you expecting the money back?

sounds like a gift to me.

 

i owe my G/F £500

tried to pay it back just before christmas and she told me she does not need it yet, so i might as well hang onto it

 

lol. and she'll need it just after youve spent it and cant afford to give it her back. Always the way.

 

THIS THREAD IS USELESS WITHOUT PICTURES......AND VIDEOS!!!! ;-)

NS04

 

Never lend money that you can't afford to lose.

Without evidence of the loan, I wouldn't fancy your chances in court. I suppose it might still be worth trying, but personally I'd treat that as an expensive lesson.

My experience of lending to friends cost me a lot more!

 

If it's a loan, she has to repay it. If it's a gift, it's too much, so tell the taxman.

Don't suppose you've got e-mails or SMS message sof the like to hold up?

J.

 

What does that mean? You can give whatever you like from income. Gifts from capital are IHT chargeable but usually exempt, if you live.

I'm assuming she didn't have a big income, as a student borrowing money, so why would the taxman care? can't see how she'd have a tax liability, or any liability unless she's done a tax return for some strange reason and not mentioned it.

On the other hand, you would be alerting the Revenue to the gift you've made, which is a potentially chargeable inheritance tax event.

 

What a strange woman

I'm yet to meet one that has yet to turn down an offer of money - especially if it's theirs