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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 08:59 PM
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compulsive liars? People who live in a fantasy world and lie so much, that they start to believe what they are saying is true? Is this an illness?
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 09:03 PM
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It is a terrible illness.

I had to spend a year on a caribbean island to get treated for it 5 years ago !

It was terribly hard work but I managed to pull through after being fortunate enough to win the Florida lottery ($70 million ) and paid for the best care and treatment possible


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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 09:06 PM
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in my country, where i am the king, we behead people like that.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 09:06 PM
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Hi, I am new, I hope you don't mind me replying!

I have had a lot of bad experiences with a compulsive liar. At the time I did not know how to handle her; but now I have learned from my mistakes. The best thing to do is simply ignore them. Confrontation doesn't work; they trip themselves up covering their backs and become irrational once they have realised this. In some cases it can lead to violence! Let them get on with it and hopefully the more people that walk out of their life will help them realise what they are doing is stupid!
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 09:09 PM
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It can stem from mental illness or attention seeking. This will be the only serious answer to receive in this thread.

http://www.mental-health-matters.com....php?artID=153
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 09:10 PM
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Milo - You were banished, Selwyn Frogget is now the King...
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 09:19 PM
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Tash - If they start to believe their own lies, there is not a lot you can do, well, apart from distance yourself from them, in case others, who have not realised they are bullsh*it merchants and then, they have, what drunks call "a moment of clarity", and thus see the person for who they really are, associate you with this person and possibly assume you two lie like a trooper, which would be totally false.

You could try and point out to them they are lying, and prove it to them, but I doubt it'd do much, plus it's really not worth your effort. Simply ignore them and they will go away.

I'm told an **** probe is possible a cure for this problem, as their brain has obviously migrated to thier ****.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 09:27 PM
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Tash - If they start to believe their own lies, there is not a lot you can do, well, apart from distance yourself from them, in case others, who have not realised they are bullsh*it merchants and then, they have, what drunks call "a moment of clarity", and thus see the person for who they really are, associate you with this person and possibly assume you two lie like a trooper, which would be totally false.

You could try and point out to them they are lying, and prove it to them, but I doubt it'd do much, plus it's really not worth your effort. Simply ignore them and they will go away.

I'm told an **** probe is possible a cure for this problem, as their brain has obviously migrated to thier ****.
lol Markus a good analogy. I don't know how to broach the subject to this particular person as I am certain more lies will spout forth It's so very obvious they are living in a delusional state and people are now beginning to laugh. Some of the lies are so ludicrous, I am beginning to feal embarrassed speaking to them at the moment
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 09:30 PM
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Well, the simple answer is, don't speak to them. But that's not always an easy thing to do. As mentioned by others, you confront them they will lie more and/or just spaz out at you.

Hmm, you could get them sectioned
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 09:37 PM
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Are they out and out lies or exaggerations of part truths?
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 09:39 PM
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let em' carry on I say, the more you pretend to beleive them the better they get , I've met a few through work, some of the tales are unvbeleivable. I have heard:

taking out a 9ft iguana lizard in a council flat that was being refurbed with a stun grenade that was kept in his toolbox.

After a call over the tannoy by the pilot for engineers, he lifted floorboards in a 747 that had the landing gear stuck to free the wheels..

telling Malcolm Allison ( one time manager of Manchester city ) to fcukoff, after being told to run up&down the stadium steps 20 times.

The most unbeleivable story I ever heard, was by a welder called Dennis I worked with in Cornwall. One day his boss sent him out to carry out a repair to a pylon somewhere in the middle of the desert in the middle east LOL

Unfortunately, when he got there his welder had broken down, this was apparently a special type of engine driven welder that straps to your back so you have all limbs free to scale the pylon. ok

Dennis then told us he tore the engine out of his land rover, fitted it to the welder, strapped it to his back ( complete with engine ), scaled the pylon and carried out the repair, thusly restoring power to half of the country.

obviousley, the land rover engine had to be refitted so he could then get back to the workshop, all on his own BTW.

The bit that made me laugh, was when Dennis got back to the workshop, his boss had the cheek to say " what took you so ******* long?"

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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 10:02 PM
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Gee whiz mj, have people really told you those porkers?
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 10:05 PM
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yes, with a straight face aswell, brightens up the brew cabin if nothing else.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 10:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Soulgirl
Are they out and out lies or exaggerations of part truths?
Out and out lies most of the time, the thing is there is no need for them. Some of it is based on truth, but grossly exaggerated.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 10:27 PM
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Ive got 27 watches........
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 10:30 PM
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Originally Posted by yoza
Ive got 27 watches........
and?
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 10:30 PM
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There was a lad who used to knock about with us who was a compulsive liar.
1/ He owned an orange B reg 316 BMW and told us he was getting a new car - a red 325 with all the trimmings/body kit etc - when it arrived - lo and behold it has the same reg plate as his old orange car, the same rip in the passenger seat as the orange car etc...We let him live the dream for a while "oh this doesnt seem much quicker than ya 316 mate" etc...
2/ He invited us to his house to a BBQ then rang his house from his mobile and pretended it was the nursing home and he had to go to visit his dying granny so we all had to leave...
3/ He claimed to be on a certain wage, forgetting that at the time I worked for the bank he had his accounts with - he lied by 75%..

And so it goes on...

In the end he got slapped a few times and we havent seen the cretin for years... Ah bliss!

He's probably a politician now...
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 10:37 PM
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One lad I had the misfortune of knowing used to tell us our own stories "I was in Kenya and we caught these elephant poachers, the chief warden, Jimmy - he had a white beard - was so greatefull he... oh have you heard this before?" etc. Tit!
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 10:38 PM
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What do you mean.......And ?

Your supposed to tell me to. A: Stop telling lies. Or B: Stop exaggerating.

Then I can bore you with the full details.
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 10:43 PM
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I assumed you were "looking after them for a mate"
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 10:52 PM
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Originally Posted by yoza
What do you mean.......And ?

Your supposed to tell me to. A: Stop telling lies. Or B: Stop exaggerating.

Then I can bore you with the full details.
lol I have read about you and your watches before, so I wondered what your point was
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 11:24 PM
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I have met one such person Tasha and IMO it's best to distance yourself from them. I believe it is a form of illness, which is a shame really I expect they could be a very nice person if they were able to face reality and integrate with 'the real world'
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Old Jun 29, 2004 | 11:44 PM
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i know a guy who was " on the helicopter that crashed in chile " during the falklands war , only his mum swears he was in germany !! this is just a sample of the web he weaves irritating but also fu**in funny
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 11:06 AM
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Yep we have one of them in the local.

Can't open his mouth with out saying a lie.

Wonders why nobody talks to him
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 11:13 AM
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My advice, Tasha, is just don't vote for Tony Blair again.
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 11:17 AM
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Liars should be confronted, that's what my dad always says! Well, that's what I did when Mike Tyson told me (to my face) that he was not guilty of raping that woman. I spent six months in rehab and am still unable to fully open my left eye and will have a weeping nose for the rest of my life I'd keep stumm if I were you!
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 01:03 PM
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Originally Posted by gsm1
My advice, Tasha, is just don't vote for Tony Blair again.
Unlikely, as I don't do 'voting'
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 01:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Soulgirl
It can stem from mental illness or attention seeking. This will be the only serious answer to receive in this thread.

http://www.mental-health-matters.com....php?artID=153
I missed this link of yours Soulgirl. I have just read some of the articles
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 01:23 PM
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We used to have one at work to, it was great )

We all used to wind him up as he always had to have the best story, we would then compare notes and **** ourselves!

They included:

Being invited by the russian version of TopGun school to fix the flying problems of the Mig 29 for them

Being a tornado pilot in the Gulf

Being a harrier pilot in the falklands

Being at an airshow when the spitfire display pilot didnt turn up, so they invited him by name from the crowd, so he flew the display unrehearsed while holding him camcorder in the cockpit for prosperity

being shown round the isle of man tt circuit by Joey Dunlop

racing Jo Wincklehock round the nuerbergring and beating his best time

owning a diamond mine and ranch in south africa, which had land including the hills where Zulu was filmed

it was non stop, he got the sack in the end for robbing stuff, last i heard he was testing supercars at speeds of over 200mph and restoring vintage racing bikes!! )
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Old Jun 30, 2004 | 01:30 PM
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I used to work with a fella (Ray). His Dad was a Wellington Bomber pilot during the war. After a daytime mission he'd fly over their house and wave to his son in the garden. "How he never got in trouble I'll never know" was always how he ended the story. He also met Sam Fox at a Sun Bed shop opening ceremony, went to her house and had a ****.
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