Divorced half the house...
08 March 2019, 06:07 AM
#1
Divorced half the house...
My brother met a girl when 16 and had a child.
She said after a year she didn’t want to be with him and was taking the child and raising him with her new b/f who will be know as the boys dad.
i don’t know or remember then ins and outs as I was about 5 and this was around the late 80’s.
in the 90’s he met a woman, married and had 2 children. After 10yrs or so she found out about this first child and the married ended. (My brother has never seen this first child since the 80’s)
from what I hear (obviously it’s one sided) since the split she has always demanded more money for the kids and he gave it. She stolen his money from the savings, had the children break into his house (over 5 times) stealing at first valuables and now anything and everything they can grab. (His new gf’s clothes!)
It’s been extreamly messy for him since they split. She met a rich guy and there’s no need for her to play games but she will phonenthe police at 2am saying my brother is outside her house when he would be at work. - The police would go into his work and arrest him for breaching the restraining order. - this happens a lot. Usually while he is in the cells the sons are robbing the house.
They have just been to court about the house and the court has seen in her favour that my brother is to sell the house immediately and award her half of the money.
Heres the catch. When they met It was my brothers savings account that he paid the deposit with. Every payment he has made from his account bar I think a one £500!(or similar) payment from her account back in the 90’s due to him changing banks.
(I don’t think she worked then)
I think it’s mad that whether you pay £1 or £1million you’ll get half.
My brother fortunately has every payment made on file and issued this evidence in court.
The Judge doesn’t care about the history or who’s paid what. If you were married they are entitled to half
rather then what you put in
She said after a year she didn’t want to be with him and was taking the child and raising him with her new b/f who will be know as the boys dad.
i don’t know or remember then ins and outs as I was about 5 and this was around the late 80’s.
in the 90’s he met a woman, married and had 2 children. After 10yrs or so she found out about this first child and the married ended. (My brother has never seen this first child since the 80’s)
from what I hear (obviously it’s one sided) since the split she has always demanded more money for the kids and he gave it. She stolen his money from the savings, had the children break into his house (over 5 times) stealing at first valuables and now anything and everything they can grab. (His new gf’s clothes!)
It’s been extreamly messy for him since they split. She met a rich guy and there’s no need for her to play games but she will phonenthe police at 2am saying my brother is outside her house when he would be at work. - The police would go into his work and arrest him for breaching the restraining order. - this happens a lot. Usually while he is in the cells the sons are robbing the house.
They have just been to court about the house and the court has seen in her favour that my brother is to sell the house immediately and award her half of the money.
Heres the catch. When they met It was my brothers savings account that he paid the deposit with. Every payment he has made from his account bar I think a one £500!(or similar) payment from her account back in the 90’s due to him changing banks.
(I don’t think she worked then)
I think it’s mad that whether you pay £1 or £1million you’ll get half.
My brother fortunately has every payment made on file and issued this evidence in court.
The Judge doesn’t care about the history or who’s paid what. If you were married they are entitled to half
rather then what you put in
08 March 2019, 10:53 AM
#6
My divorce is being finalized in the next few weeks. I caught her cheating.
The money side of divorce has nothing to do with who did what , everthing is split 50/50 unless its agreed otherwise. It's a joke but thats how it is. I just got lucky and we came to an agreement on how much she got, but she was "entitled" to half of everything.
I was the breadwinner and she'd a part time job. I paid for house (I'm mortgage free now), the wedding, holidays, household bills, groceries all from my account over 20years of our lives , but doesn't matter 1 bit. She was even entitled to part of my wages, pension , the likes of my mums house (mum nearly signed her house over to me and my bro years ago but solicitor talked her out of it once he heard i was married. He obviously knew this could happen !)
There's no way round it either as i asked my solicitor what happens if my new girlfriend does exactly the same thing. They said there's not much.
The money side of divorce has nothing to do with who did what , everthing is split 50/50 unless its agreed otherwise. It's a joke but thats how it is. I just got lucky and we came to an agreement on how much she got, but she was "entitled" to half of everything.
I was the breadwinner and she'd a part time job. I paid for house (I'm mortgage free now), the wedding, holidays, household bills, groceries all from my account over 20years of our lives , but doesn't matter 1 bit. She was even entitled to part of my wages, pension , the likes of my mums house (mum nearly signed her house over to me and my bro years ago but solicitor talked her out of it once he heard i was married. He obviously knew this could happen !)
There's no way round it either as i asked my solicitor what happens if my new girlfriend does exactly the same thing. They said there's not much.
Last edited by CharlySkunkWeed; 08 March 2019 at 11:03 AM.
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08 March 2019, 11:44 AM
#8
So I'd no choice than to pay for the divorce and her solicitors bill too aswell as my own.
I'd the joy of a 5.5k forged rebuil at the start of all this too.
its been a fun 2.5 years.
Last edited by CharlySkunkWeed; 08 March 2019 at 11:51 AM.
08 March 2019, 12:10 PM
#9
My divorce is being finalized in the next few weeks. I caught her cheating.
The money side of divorce has nothing to do with who did what , everthing is split 50/50 unless its agreed otherwise. It's a joke but thats how it is. I just got lucky and we came to an agreement on how much she got, but she was "entitled" to half of everything.
I was the breadwinner and she'd a part time job. I paid for house (I'm mortgage free now), the wedding, holidays, household bills, groceries all from my account over 20years of our lives , but doesn't matter 1 bit. She was even entitled to part of my wages, pension , the likes of my mums house (mum nearly signed her house over to me and my bro years ago but solicitor talked her out of it once he heard i was married. He obviously knew this could happen !)
There's no way round it either as i asked my solicitor what happens if my new girlfriend does exactly the same thing. They said there's not much.
The money side of divorce has nothing to do with who did what , everthing is split 50/50 unless its agreed otherwise. It's a joke but thats how it is. I just got lucky and we came to an agreement on how much she got, but she was "entitled" to half of everything.
I was the breadwinner and she'd a part time job. I paid for house (I'm mortgage free now), the wedding, holidays, household bills, groceries all from my account over 20years of our lives , but doesn't matter 1 bit. She was even entitled to part of my wages, pension , the likes of my mums house (mum nearly signed her house over to me and my bro years ago but solicitor talked her out of it once he heard i was married. He obviously knew this could happen !)
There's no way round it either as i asked my solicitor what happens if my new girlfriend does exactly the same thing. They said there's not much.
08 March 2019, 12:42 PM
#11
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08 March 2019, 06:08 PM
#18
Originally Posted by CharlySkunkWeed
i don't think we have them in the UK
09 March 2019, 08:14 AM
#25
it's an unfair system if the marriage does go t1ts up , it cost me a lot of money a few years ago when I got divorced, and my ex never really worked and didn't pay for anything , still got half of everything and we didn't have children , her solicitor wanted 75% equity because of my ex not working , I told them to f*ck right off !
good luck whoever's going through it , it's a sh1tty place to be
09 March 2019, 10:44 AM
#27
prenups are not set in stone , but are looked on favourably by the courts if you have one , postnups , after the wedding seemed to be looked at better in the event of a divorce, but then if you have children it all pretty much goes out the window , I got married again last year and looked into it
it's an unfair system if the marriage does go t1ts up , it cost me a lot of money a few years ago when I got divorced, and my ex never really worked and didn't pay for anything , still got half of everything and we didn't have children , her solicitor wanted 75% equity because of my ex not working , I told them to f*ck right off !
good luck whoever's going through it , it's a sh1tty place to be
it's an unfair system if the marriage does go t1ts up , it cost me a lot of money a few years ago when I got divorced, and my ex never really worked and didn't pay for anything , still got half of everything and we didn't have children , her solicitor wanted 75% equity because of my ex not working , I told them to f*ck right off !
good luck whoever's going through it , it's a sh1tty place to be
11 March 2019, 11:45 AM
#30
My ex-and I were separated 10 years before we finally divorced which reduced the costs and fighting. When we split the house went 50/50 but I paid the outstanding debts, cards etc etc with my half.
Eventually I paid for all the divorce proceeding (she pleaded poverty) which cost a few quid to be honest.
There is a very big BUT. She as signed a "Clean Break agreement" to not chase my pensions or lump sums I get in the future - short term pain, long term gain.
Eventually I paid for all the divorce proceeding (she pleaded poverty) which cost a few quid to be honest.
There is a very big BUT. She as signed a "Clean Break agreement" to not chase my pensions or lump sums I get in the future - short term pain, long term gain.
Last edited by The Trooper 1815; 11 March 2019 at 11:51 AM.