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Old 14 April 2006, 08:29 PM
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Sorry,

Pointless thread but im desperately trying to sort out, my car, the stress of big business prospects, and generally all the other ****e life makes you pay for and its really getting me down.

Massive lack of sleep dont help either.

I promised Michaela a holiday this year too but i cant see that happening anytime soon either.

Just wish i could make some more money as i desperately wanna sort my life out and make ends meet

Sorry, for my depressing thread
Old 14 April 2006, 08:32 PM
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Oi Oi stop that Matey !!

You always got a smile on your face & Brighten this place up

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Old 14 April 2006, 08:38 PM
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Yeah i know mate, but thats just it isnt it.

Thats all everyone sees of me, that funkin nutter always running around shouting like a loony about wax a bloody clear buckets lol.

Just depressing when youre trying so hard to succeed at somethin and you cant get there just yet.

Sorry, maybe its just cos im young realising that lifes a pain in the ***.
Old 14 April 2006, 08:56 PM
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Frayz dont you realise we are all taking in this 'clear bucket' info and using it (some being more secret than others)

Life is not always great as an adult
Old 14 April 2006, 09:03 PM
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LOL

Ive been a qualified adult for coming up 5 years now and its crap.
Life just sucks **** sometimes and i dont matter how hard you try theres nothing you can do about it.... its so frustrating
Old 14 April 2006, 09:43 PM
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calm down m8
i'm 40 next month and life still sucks sometimes
but when its good, its more than worth it
just get us old gits to tell you about "the good old days"

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Old 14 April 2006, 09:44 PM
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Originally Posted by peter budgen
just get us old gits to tell you about "the good old days"
And us even older gits,you young whippersnapper.

Right I have my comfy slippers on & a mug of horlicks so listen here,it seems like your going through the "impatience of youth" thing m8.

Believe it or not I am not so old that I have forgotten what that is.We all go through it & we all come out the other side of it none the worse for wear.

But like you say it sucks at the time & hearing people say "patience is a virtue" doesn't cut much ice. You will find times where the more you push for something the further away it seems to keep getting.All you can do is persevere.

Try to think positive about what you have & not so much about what you haven't :-

Nice car

Nice girlfriend

Driven a Cossie like it was stolen

Nice group of friends (ESC)

Two clear buckets. Sorry just trying to lighten up,was getting a bit fuddy duddy.

I am currently counselling my twenty-something year old daughter for this same problem.

Mark

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Old 14 April 2006, 10:09 PM
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And is Butlins with us not a holiday? also camping at JAE is more fun than 2 weeks on any beach
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Originally Posted by Her at the back
Frayz dont you realise we are all taking in this 'clear bucket' info and using it (some being more secret than others)
I'm even thinking of sacking my team of Bosnians and getting 2 buckets what have you done to me
Old 14 April 2006, 10:13 PM
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Originally Posted by frayz
Life just sucks **** sometimes and i dont matter how hard you try theres nothing you can do about it.... its so frustrating
This is so much better then the usual "lifes a bitch and then you die" routine
Old 14 April 2006, 10:15 PM
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Cheers guys,

Sorry to dull the shiny ESC with a downer thread its just life really gets to ya sometimes and you just feel your pissing in the wind.
Old 14 April 2006, 10:22 PM
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I know exactly what you mean mate, when you think things are on the up, something happens to make you doubt your beliefs, been in the same boat before, was even thinking about jacking in the scooby scene, but I know people are always about to help, or lend an understanding ear!

Keep the faith mate!
Old 14 April 2006, 10:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Milamber
I'm even thinking of sacking my team of Bosnians and getting 2 buckets what have you done to me

Steady its only Frayz

Thats Life mate sometime it sucks


But when it Blows it really does blow


and think on the positive side when I last felt like this and posted Nevetas offered me the use of his gun
Old 14 April 2006, 10:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Her at the back
And is Butlins with us not a holiday? also camping at JAE is more fun than 2 weeks on any bitch
er, dont think so

budgie

well said mark
and sorry for editing your post sara
Old 14 April 2006, 10:47 PM
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Originally Posted by FLAT ERIC
And us even older gits,you young whippersnapper.

Right I have my comfy slippers on & a mug of horlicks so listen here,it seems like your going through the "impatience of youth" thing m8.

Believe it or not I am not so old that I have forgotten what that is.We all go through it & we all come out the other side of it none the worse for wear.

But like you say it sucks at the time & hearing people say "patience is a virtue" doesn't cut much ice. You will find times where the more you push for something the further away it seems to keep getting.All you can do is persevere.

Try to think positive about what you have & not so much about what you haven't :-

Nice car

Nice girlfriend

Driven a Cossie like it was stolen

Nice group of friends (ESC)

Two clear buckets. Sorry just trying to lighten up,was getting a bit fuddy duddy.

I am currently counselling my twenty-something year old daughter for this same problem.

Mark
Am loving the prioritising there Mark


Cheer up fella, when it does finally come good, it will mean more if you struggled for it
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Yeah i know,

Cheers guys. Hopefully the business thing will come off its just a shedload of work and frustration

Cheers chaps
Old 14 April 2006, 11:05 PM
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Frayz, as i said to you last night, i worked for fords for 7 years mate, i know how you feel.

i completely changed career, but don't feel its a waste of time.

Engineering skills and especially apprenticeships are a great base for many future endeavours, including common sense, people skills, and using the old grey matter!!!

i'm sure you'll find a path, just be patient!!!

i started my own business at 35 (two years ago) and feel it was the right time to do it.
People ask me if i would have liked to do it earlier and i say no, i'd have missed out on the experience to get me here in the first place!!!!

if you want to chat more let me know, i'm never really busy, especially to help other people.

good luck and keep smiling,

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Old 14 April 2006, 11:17 PM
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Frayz, just seen this and felt compelled to reply.

Im a youngish 34, I used to earn crap money and never had the things I wanted, then I got a better job earnt better money and we bought a house, so still had none spare to do those things in life that I wanted to.
Next, I got an even better job, I now earn so much more money, so we got a bigger house, but, alas, my wife had to retire from work due to her disease (Rhuematoid arthirits) becoming uncontrollable, so now I earn good money, but have to pay our big motgage, so still nothing spare to play with.

The lessons, life IS a bitch, but you have to adapt to what gets thrown at you and its definitely what you make it

I have friends in council house accomodation, with no cars, no money and no jobs, no holidays and no real prospects in life, those are some of the most cheery, happy and contented people I know because they adapt and enjoy the simple things like friends, fresh air and a laugh.

chin up


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Frayz.

Lifes a big old test matie. At this moment ive got a couson in a coma afther some pri*k mounted the pavement in birmingham yesterday.

After already losing a nephew in his rst in bradwell a couple of years ago.

So life never that bad.. it gets better. And what do i do when this goes on. Get the megs mist spray out...

Simon.
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Chin up fella.
Life is one big cycle full of ups and downs. A journey through a valley. There's always a light at the end of the tunnel my man.

As Tiny rightly said you are always smiling, keep the smiles up man, the health is more important than wealth.

Good luck, as for holidays, if can't have one now, there is always a next time.
Peace from a guy that feels the same as you, sometimes.

Never assume the next guy is better off.
Old 15 April 2006, 02:41 PM
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At the end of the day everyone has good and bad times, without the bad you can't appreciate the good!

Be thankful that you have your health, family and friends. They are the most important things in life.

Hope things at work sort them selves out

Are you looking to go elsewhere now?
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Frayz,
My old boss died of stomach cancer aged 47, and that was brought on by him stressing about how to become richer faster than he could physically do it.
He spent the last few years of his life worrying himself into an early grave, just because he could see other people who have big houses, flash cars, a real rolex, etc. and he assumed he should be at that 'level' at his age.

I guess what I am trying to say is have goals, realistic ones, as markers on YOUR ladder of life. Do not use other peoples lives as yardsticks, as that will only cause disappointment, and resentment in the end.

I have finally got my dream car, a Scooby. It has taken me 10 years of dreaming, and a personal loan to achieve my dream, however, I waited till the time and circumstances were right, so I didn't have to stress about where the money for the loan is coming from, and so I kept to my realistic goal.

Work hard towards realistic goals, and keep your pecker up, you WILL get there in the end.

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Frayz,



One song to go back to in times of despair .......






Bright Side of Life





Some things in life are bad
They can really make you mad
Other things just make you swear and curse.
When you're chewing on life's gristle
Don't grumble, give a whistle
And this'll help things turn out for the best...

And...always look on the bright side of life...
Always look on the light side of life...

If life seems jolly rotten
There's something you've forgotten
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing.
When you're feeling in the dumps
Don't be silly chumps
Just purse your lips and whistle - that's the thing.

And...always look on the bright side of life...
Always look on the light side of life...

For life is quite absurd
And death's the final word
You must always face the curtain with a bow.
Forget about your sin - give the audience a grin
Enjoy it - it's your last chance anyhow.

So always look on the bright side of death
Just before you draw your terminal breath

Life's a piece of ****
When you look at it
Life's a laugh and death's a joke, it's true.
You'll see it's all a show
Keep 'em laughing as you go
Just remember that the last laugh is on you.

And always look on the bright side of life...
Always look on the right side of life...
(Come on guys, cheer up!)
Always look on the bright side of life...
Always look on the bright side of life...
(Worse things happen at sea, you know.)
Always look on the bright side of life...
(I mean - what have you got to lose?)
(You know, you come from nothing - you're going back to nothing.
What have you lost? Nothing!)
Always look on the right side of life...




Nate.

ps Keep that smile on !!

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you aint wrong nate

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we are skint aswell mate, BUT we are ALL WAYS (well most of the time) Smiling.

Me & Diane have only been on 1 holiday in the 6 years we have been together..
that was BUTLINS last year!!!!!!
We dont even have enough money for a HUNNY MOON after our wedding
But we will always be at Meets.. & Shows, with a Smile.


Hope you get your self sorted,
P.s a reall good sleep does help

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frayz...?

who is he,, i never met the guy.
ive seen his car tho.very nice
ive also adopted the two clear bucket system and taken it back over the fence to middx and spreading the word there.

life does hit you with some bad blows now and again,but when this happens i just think of the less fortunate people in the world,coz there are alot of people hurting and when i think about them for a second all my problems seem so silly, laughable almost..

i mean take me for example, i am a 100% scottish(tattoo,flag on number plate,the lot) livin down here with all you guys.
now as if that isnt bad enough, its my birthday next week, yeah thats right ill be 27 on the 23rd april..BL@@DY ST GEORGES DAY!!

and ontop of this my mum let it slip that i was concieved in bognor regis!

proud to be scottish,but thinkin i was actually supposed to be english, now i am confused <picks up his cleanin stuff and heads for the drive>

it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile!!!

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Frayz do you now see we all have our little problems just shrug you shoulders and have another beer
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Originally Posted by Her at the back
Frayz do you now see we all have our little problems just shrug you shoulders and have another beer
I don't drink!! lol

Think this thread has made me look as if my life was crap and i had nothin worth living for, well thats not what i was getting at.

Im just pissed off at struggling to make ends meet and fed up of being skint
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Originally Posted by frayz

Im just pissed off at struggling to make ends meet and fed up of being skint
My man, i think it's only members of the royal family that won't fit in that category.

Good luck fella, enjoy what you have.
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Originally Posted by frayz
Im just pissed off at struggling to make ends meet and fed up of being skint
Tell me, ive been like that now for over 4 years, & i keep saying to my self it WILL get better

Baz


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