How much should you have saved? by say 25? 30? 35? and 40?
#181
9 hours. I used to love (possibly too strong) my work; four promotions in three years, good financial rewards, variety, recognition, great incentives (including club class to South Africa and an E-Class company car) and I liked the owner of the business. Then I had what could be loosely described as an existential crisis, decided to step down and went and studied philosophy part-time at Cardiff Uni.
I feel a little lost to be honest.
I feel a little lost to be honest.
Last edited by tony de wonderful; 02 February 2014 at 08:48 AM.
#182
Scooby Regular
A lot of men seem to feel the need to be "defined" by something, as you say often their job and sometimes simply their car
Last edited by hodgy0_2; 02 February 2014 at 07:52 AM.
#183
Scooby Regular
iTrader: (7)
Aha, the old 'Midlife Crisis' had mine a few years ago and what Swati says is true, Though if i'm honest I had one in my late twenties as well, for me it was being stuck in an office all day after coming off the tools and becoming a manager, I thought it was what I wanted much like TDW said about his peers, being successful in your career seems to be the goal to achieve but unfortunately once you are you realise it's not the be all and end all and it's actually better for some to earn less money doing something you enjoy.
I have not earned anything much to speak of in the past few years but never been happier plodding along plastering, plumbing, building stone walls is very therapeutic, currently building a stone extension and loving it, surroundings play a big part too, city life can be quite manic and the modern world always seems to have me "On Guard" out here in the middle of nowhere i'm completely relaxed and just get on with the task at hand as and when the weather permits, been raining for a few days so i've done next to bugger all .
As with all things I find it's about balance, finding that balance is the tricky part though, putting pressure on yourself is counter productive so I take the "Achievable Goals" approach with a flexible time frame, do what I want when I want and it will get done when it gets done.
**** it, life's too short to spend all of it marching to the beat of anothers drum, too much emphasis on material things and the appearance of success, For me success is when one's eyes are opened and you free yourself from being a slave to the machine.
I have not earned anything much to speak of in the past few years but never been happier plodding along plastering, plumbing, building stone walls is very therapeutic, currently building a stone extension and loving it, surroundings play a big part too, city life can be quite manic and the modern world always seems to have me "On Guard" out here in the middle of nowhere i'm completely relaxed and just get on with the task at hand as and when the weather permits, been raining for a few days so i've done next to bugger all .
As with all things I find it's about balance, finding that balance is the tricky part though, putting pressure on yourself is counter productive so I take the "Achievable Goals" approach with a flexible time frame, do what I want when I want and it will get done when it gets done.
**** it, life's too short to spend all of it marching to the beat of anothers drum, too much emphasis on material things and the appearance of success, For me success is when one's eyes are opened and you free yourself from being a slave to the machine.
Last edited by ditchmyster; 02 February 2014 at 09:30 AM.
#184
Scooby Senior
iTrader: (34)
It happens to be the case that my spiritual life is fulfilling, it's my material life that's lacking. As Søren Kierkegaard put it "what am I to do, not what I must know". I have routine and I find it phenomenally tedious. It has to change. Matters aren't helped by my partner who brings my haplessness in to stark relief; she's über successful, knows exactly where she's going and how she's going to get there. Anyway, this is all a bit self indulgent, I feel like I'm on Oprah or something.
Someone once said, the man who knows everything knows he knows nothing at all. Perhaps we're over complicating our existence. As biological entities our concerns ought to be confined to food, shelter and safety. Everything else is a bonus. Strange isn't James, a decade ago we were discussing things like the injectors on a WRX RA. Now the subject is a little deeper.
#185
Scooby Regular
Join Date: Feb 1999
Location: Cardiff. Wales
Posts: 11,758
Likes: 0
Received 0 Likes
on
0 Posts
#189
Christ! Do you ever sleep, Lisa???
I was up working quite late last night, and about 2:10am I saw that you were awake on the tinterbet, man. I eventually went to bed for about 4am, set the alarm for 12:30pm today to wake up, but my fatty the cat decided to pull my hair+ dance all over my duvet+ sleep on my head, so I had to get out of bed for 10. Lovely day, but my head felt like>
Anyway, I have had two Yorkshire teas by now, and my head feels awake. Time to get back to work. Big day tomorrow.
Have a good Sunday, everyone.
#190
Anyway, more tea, anyone?
#191
Moderator
iTrader: (1)
A bit. I eventually got to bed around 3-ish after watching crap on the tele and playing about on internet for a bit. Set my alarm for 10.30 just so I didn't laze in bed too long, because I need to get sorted in the house. That's quite a bit of sleep for me, I'm used to 6 hours or less on a normal day.
I might have a nap later though, as I'm not at work today.
P.S. I'm on my second YT now, so feeling fresh as a daisy.
Last edited by Lisawrx; 02 February 2014 at 12:21 PM.
#192
A bit. I eventually got to bed around 3-ish after watching crap on the tele and playing about on internet for a bit. Set my alarm for 10.30 just so I didn't laze in bed too long, because I need to get sorted in the house. That's quite a bit of sleep for me, I'm used to 6 hours or less on a normal day.
I might have a nap later though, as I'm not at work today.
P.S. I'm on my second YT now, so feeling fresh as a daisy.
I didn't watch any telly yesterday. Today, not on anyone's back and call meself, just WFH flexibly on my own accord. All good fun. It means I can venture SN now and again to see if there's any life here, cook dinner here at home, feed people and cats, watch telly if I can be bothered with that, and chill out, basically. I love Sundays, but my Mondays are even better!
Yes, luckily my work is ok. Love is a strong word, but I would be in denial if I didn't use it to denote my real feeling for my work. All good.
#193
Scooby Regular
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Home
Posts: 14,758
Likes: 0
Received 0 Likes
on
0 Posts
#194
Scooby Regular
iTrader: (9)
Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: .
Posts: 20,035
Likes: 0
Received 0 Likes
on
0 Posts
Not as simple as that for many people Chip! Just because that is your mantra and it works for you doesn't mean it works for everyone. James has already stated he had the good job, the car, the lifestyle, but something was missing. He now needs to find what that is.
#195
Last edited by Turbohot; 02 February 2014 at 01:07 PM.
#196
I'm not using the word 'simple' in a derogatory way. Simplicity is a boon, just that some aren't blessed with it.
#197
Or other factors that just re-aligns your priorities and outlook to life, that being my kids for example.
#199
I see it from the outside so I suppose it's easy to sound superior.
Last edited by tony de wonderful; 02 February 2014 at 02:05 PM.
#200
Scooby Regular
Join Date: Feb 1999
Location: Cardiff. Wales
Posts: 11,758
Likes: 0
Received 0 Likes
on
0 Posts
Only through hard work and determination did I manage to turn myself around and get to where I am today which in my mind is a pretty good place to be. In fact very good, couldn't be better.
Far too many people today seem to think the world owes them a favour. I'm not saying that about anyone in particular but perhaps some need to try and motivate themselves to get out of the rut that they have found themselves in, difficult I know, but it can be done.
#201
Scooby Regular
Join Date: Feb 1999
Location: Cardiff. Wales
Posts: 11,758
Likes: 0
Received 0 Likes
on
0 Posts
Chris, I was directing my post at the way the thread was going in general rather than directly at James as you seem to think. If I do have a personal dig at someone like you it's just in banter, sorry if you thought otherwise.
#203
Scooby Senior
iTrader: (34)
In searching for that missing thing it's easy to lose a lot more along the way. An old study revealed our general levels of happiness and contentment stay around the same during our lifetimes. This was compared in the lives of a lottery winner and someone who lost their legs in an accident. After the initial trauma/euphoria the general level of contentment stabilised to more or less what it was prior to the incidents occurring.
#204
If he has done his full postgrad, he may have to learn/fortify his teaching skills with PGCE certificate for even higher education providing employers. I say 'have to', because most colleges and universities in England and Wales are now sending back even their chronic PhD holder professors to acquire a PGCE cert.
Last edited by Turbohot; 02 February 2014 at 03:04 PM.
#205
Not saying you are doing this per se, but I see many middle class parents turning parenting into a quasi-religious cause and making idols of their kids. It's a lot of pressure for kids. Do they really want or need you to live for (through?) them, to make them your 'everything'? Plus you have this whole status thing and veiled competition going on between parents especially the mums.
I see it from the outside so I suppose it's easy to sound superior.
I see it from the outside so I suppose it's easy to sound superior.
#206
Scooby Regular
iTrader: (9)
Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: .
Posts: 20,035
Likes: 0
Received 0 Likes
on
0 Posts
No worries and I wasn't digging back, just saying that some people find it hard to see why others are not happy.... you can put an awful lot in, get an awful lot back and still not be happy as what you are getting is not what you want!
#207
#208
Scooby Regular
Join Date: Feb 1999
Location: Cardiff. Wales
Posts: 11,758
Likes: 0
Received 0 Likes
on
0 Posts
Fair point, obviously I'm just too simple to understand this
#209
Look, Mowgli and Baloo sang 'simple bare necessities' in a positive way, and even someone like Gandhi aggrandised 'simple' with his 'simple living and high thinking' view.
Basically, nothing wrong with being 'simple' in that sense. You have a clarity with your needs in your life, which is brilliant, in fact.
I also like simple things in my life. That's the reason I'm now going to make my nice and simple mug of Yorkshire tea for the 5th time today! Dinner is on the go in the kitchen, so I shall check that too. All very simple.
God, this 'simple' talk has just started that song in my head- "Oh, simple thing, where have you gone...... I'm getting old and I need something to rely on........". FFS man.
Basically, nothing wrong with being 'simple' in that sense. You have a clarity with your needs in your life, which is brilliant, in fact.
I also like simple things in my life. That's the reason I'm now going to make my nice and simple mug of Yorkshire tea for the 5th time today! Dinner is on the go in the kitchen, so I shall check that too. All very simple.
God, this 'simple' talk has just started that song in my head- "Oh, simple thing, where have you gone...... I'm getting old and I need something to rely on........". FFS man.
Last edited by Turbohot; 02 February 2014 at 04:18 PM.
#210
Scooby Regular
iTrader: (9)
Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: .
Posts: 20,035
Likes: 0
Received 0 Likes
on
0 Posts
Look, Mowgli and Baloo sang 'simple bare necessities' in a positive way, and even someone like Gandhi aggrandised 'simple' with his 'simple living and high thinking' view.
Basically, nothing wrong with being 'simple' in that sense. You have a clarity with your needs in your life, which is brilliant, in fact.
I also like simple things in my life. That's the reason I'm now going to make my nice and simple mug of Yorkshire tea for the 5th time today! Dinner is on the go in the kitchen, so I shall check that too. All very simple.
God, this 'simple' talk has just started that sond in my head- "Oh, simple thing, where have you gone...... I'm getting old and I need something to rely on........". FFS man.
Basically, nothing wrong with being 'simple' in that sense. You have a clarity with your needs in your life, which is brilliant, in fact.
I also like simple things in my life. That's the reason I'm now going to make my nice and simple mug of Yorkshire tea for the 5th time today! Dinner is on the go in the kitchen, so I shall check that too. All very simple.
God, this 'simple' talk has just started that sond in my head- "Oh, simple thing, where have you gone...... I'm getting old and I need something to rely on........". FFS man.
Please please get some 'proper' tea
The rest of your post however is