Girlfrend problem Update
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Stilover, there are a lot of very funny comments on this thread, but many are good advice. I've been in a similar position many years back and to stay with her would have been the wrong decision.
Anyone who can play with your feelings like she has, really shouldn't deserve aother chance. I know it's difficult to kurb your feelings for those who you love but you must look after your self first and foremost.
You have decided to give it another go, maybe the wrong decision but is alas the one you have taken. Now is the time to keep her at arms length, you need to understand why she has done what she has done. You need to decide if she will play the same card at some point in the future - if she does then she is not a long term prospect. You need to be convinced that she is the one for you and she is gonna treat you with the respect that you deserve. If the answer to any of the above is not 100% satisfactory then you have to walk away, if not just for your own self preservation.
What ever you do - deal with the facts in black and white - do not use rose tinted specs because the next emotional fall may be worse.
Anyone who can play with your feelings like she has, really shouldn't deserve aother chance. I know it's difficult to kurb your feelings for those who you love but you must look after your self first and foremost.
You have decided to give it another go, maybe the wrong decision but is alas the one you have taken. Now is the time to keep her at arms length, you need to understand why she has done what she has done. You need to decide if she will play the same card at some point in the future - if she does then she is not a long term prospect. You need to be convinced that she is the one for you and she is gonna treat you with the respect that you deserve. If the answer to any of the above is not 100% satisfactory then you have to walk away, if not just for your own self preservation.
What ever you do - deal with the facts in black and white - do not use rose tinted specs because the next emotional fall may be worse.
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Probably This!
Been their and done that.
I would be VERY surprised if this relationship lasts, tbh Silover i had you down as somebody who was quite a bit older, but this post regarding your woman gives me the impression of a young lad, reminds me of the time when i was going through the same crap, and i was a naive youngun.
Shes bored, shes ****ed you over, shes dithering, shes not the one.
You love her, your think you can overlook the ****e because its painfull when shes not around, this will all eat away at the relationship.
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^ i posted the above without reading past the 1st page.
After reading the rest of the thread it gets worse, i have heard it all before, **** man, get a grip!?
She is toying with you like a puppet and your doing a happy dance for her WTF?
While i am not on SN as much these days, i had you down as one of the decent posters on here, a bit harsh maybe, but you seamed like somebody with a bit of experience about the world, this thread is mental, it makes you sound about 15
Account hijack?
After reading the rest of the thread it gets worse, i have heard it all before, **** man, get a grip!?
She is toying with you like a puppet and your doing a happy dance for her WTF?
While i am not on SN as much these days, i had you down as one of the decent posters on here, a bit harsh maybe, but you seamed like somebody with a bit of experience about the world, this thread is mental, it makes you sound about 15
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Come on everyone. Affairs of the heart seem to twist one's common sense and its so easy giving advice when its not you in the situation.
Stilover, Im glad your happy and have got your lady back. Becareful mate, anyone, boy or girl, that can play this type of mental game with someone's emotions perhaps isnt the best person to be with, or trust in. At the moment your blinded by the fact you have her back, and are not alone. And I doubt her heart is truely with you.
A lot can happen in a week, and this other guy wasnt forcing her with a gun, so she wanted to see him. Although he may not of had her, things were done so dont mug yourself off thinking nothing did.
Your now in a iffy position and will be walking on egg shells and always be on the back foot. I know this to be true, as I and many on here, have been in this position. Relationships are hard at the best of times, but now you will always have this `hiccup` in mind and I doubt you will forget this and always question what happened.
For me, I reckon you need to go alone for a while, get to like yourself again being single and get used to being on your own. Your happiness / inner clam is currently 100% dependant on someone else, which isn't cool. In time you will meet a nice girl, sexy, stunning and enjoy being with, without any of this legacy rubbish haning over your head.
Personally, I would end with her. Text her and tell her that she's hurt you and the trust has gone, and call it a day. That alone will make you feel better, and hold a poistion of pride, power.
Failing all that, I give it 3/4 weeks. You've got a winter of hell ahead.
Out of interest, would be far easier to advise if we had pics, of your lady, her sister, her mother, and any other 5luts that enjoy playing away, aye :-)
SBK
Stilover, Im glad your happy and have got your lady back. Becareful mate, anyone, boy or girl, that can play this type of mental game with someone's emotions perhaps isnt the best person to be with, or trust in. At the moment your blinded by the fact you have her back, and are not alone. And I doubt her heart is truely with you.
A lot can happen in a week, and this other guy wasnt forcing her with a gun, so she wanted to see him. Although he may not of had her, things were done so dont mug yourself off thinking nothing did.
Your now in a iffy position and will be walking on egg shells and always be on the back foot. I know this to be true, as I and many on here, have been in this position. Relationships are hard at the best of times, but now you will always have this `hiccup` in mind and I doubt you will forget this and always question what happened.
For me, I reckon you need to go alone for a while, get to like yourself again being single and get used to being on your own. Your happiness / inner clam is currently 100% dependant on someone else, which isn't cool. In time you will meet a nice girl, sexy, stunning and enjoy being with, without any of this legacy rubbish haning over your head.
Personally, I would end with her. Text her and tell her that she's hurt you and the trust has gone, and call it a day. That alone will make you feel better, and hold a poistion of pride, power.
Failing all that, I give it 3/4 weeks. You've got a winter of hell ahead.
Out of interest, would be far easier to advise if we had pics, of your lady, her sister, her mother, and any other 5luts that enjoy playing away, aye :-)
SBK
Last edited by Simon K; Aug 23, 2011 at 08:14 AM.
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As in the last thread, I did say I hurt her bad. Just dumped her as I got myself in a rut. Said some pretty ****ty things to her. While she turned up at my flat every night crying, I was telling her to simply fcukoff and leave me alone. So yes I hurt her bad. I can't complain if she decided to dish out a little hurt herself.
For the record, I'm 37, and reading this all back, it does make me sound like a 15 year old teen.
So ****!!!!!
For example, next time he's after bit of rumpy pumpy and she doesn't "feel like it"
He could say, bet you didn't say that to Joe (or whatever the other blokes name was) - she'll be blowing you in a flash
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Sorry, I can't decide what's more weird:
The childish "tit for tat" acts of spite, or the fact that it's been aired on a public forum like some type of freak-show.
And FWIW, not that I know you Stilover, but this does seem quite out of character........
The childish "tit for tat" acts of spite, or the fact that it's been aired on a public forum like some type of freak-show.
And FWIW, not that I know you Stilover, but this does seem quite out of character........
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She is female.
*Flame suit on*
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This thread reminds me of the guy who posted on here some years ago about his girlfriend whipping him with a riding crop and then photos appeared. That was one of the funniest threads ever. That thread went viral just like this one is looking to 
Lets have access to your photobucket account.
Lets have access to your photobucket account.
TBH Lisa hit the nail on the head.
As in the last thread, I did say I hurt her bad. Just dumped her as I got myself in a rut. Said some pretty ****ty things to her. While she turned up at my flat every night crying, I was telling her to simply fcukoff and leave me alone. So yes I hurt her bad. I can't complain if she decided to dish out a little hurt herself.
As in the last thread, I did say I hurt her bad. Just dumped her as I got myself in a rut. Said some pretty ****ty things to her. While she turned up at my flat every night crying, I was telling her to simply fcukoff and leave me alone. So yes I hurt her bad. I can't complain if she decided to dish out a little hurt herself.
...except for coming running back after being treated like sh*t!!!!
