How much did your life change after having children?
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18 August 2011, 12:35 PM
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Yep, mine are like Budgie's kids in the holidays, like the bloody lost boys, only appear at night.
Yes, kids are a pain in the ****, they wreck stuff but I think I would be bored and listless otherwise.
Yes, kids are a pain in the ****, they wreck stuff but I think I would be bored and listless otherwise.
18 August 2011, 02:00 PM
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So they are noisey, smelly, expensive, hard work, ruin your social life, ruin your house, make a mess, prevent you doing anything you want to do and don't sleep at night!!! to list just a few points you lot have made.
So why exactly do you want the little monsters in the first place? and having learnt your lesson WTF do you do it all again and have more ??
You women moan like b1tches when you are pregnant, oh it is to hot, oh it is to cold, my clothes don't fit, I am so uncomfortable, I am so fat and unatractive, the baby is kicking, I need a pee, blah blah blah
So again WHY DO YOU DO IT time and time again?
So why exactly do you want the little monsters in the first place? and having learnt your lesson WTF do you do it all again and have more ??
You women moan like b1tches when you are pregnant, oh it is to hot, oh it is to cold, my clothes don't fit, I am so uncomfortable, I am so fat and unatractive, the baby is kicking, I need a pee, blah blah blah
So again WHY DO YOU DO IT time and time again?
18 August 2011, 02:17 PM
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When I became a dad my mates were saying, "oh your life is over now, mate" but in fact its the opposite. Once you have had kids you realise it is the start of your life. It gives you real meaning and purpose that people without kids just cannot understand.
Yeah, they **** and puke everywhere but for some unexplainable reason you don't mind sorting them out cos you love them.
Yeah, they **** and puke everywhere but for some unexplainable reason you don't mind sorting them out cos you love them.
18 August 2011, 02:27 PM
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Pre kids - lots of cash, clean house, out most weekends, expensive cars, sleep was plentyful.
Post kids - no cash, house is a mess, going to the shops is a outing, I drive a £500 saab 9000, sleep is rare.
Would I change anything ? God no ! :-) The moment they say `Daddy` or `I love you Daddy` is priceless and melts your heart. When I get home, my son rushes t othe door shouting `Daddy..........` and hugs me .............. best hug ever :-)
As for 5hitty naps, yep Ive done a few for the first child, but I let the Mrs do the second one.
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Post kids - no cash, house is a mess, going to the shops is a outing, I drive a £500 saab 9000, sleep is rare.
Would I change anything ? God no ! :-) The moment they say `Daddy` or `I love you Daddy` is priceless and melts your heart. When I get home, my son rushes t othe door shouting `Daddy..........` and hugs me .............. best hug ever :-)
As for 5hitty naps, yep Ive done a few for the first child, but I let the Mrs do the second one.
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18 August 2011, 02:39 PM
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well ours is two in Sept. and funnily enough just been to see the midwife this am.
no 2 child due on (wait for it- 1st April 2012).
yep turned our lives upside down. its hard work, but worth it. glad I was a bit older and have got loads of stuff out of the way: trips/fancy holidays/adventures/silly cars etc, so I can take life a bit easier at moment.
I think it would be hard, being young, skint and being torn to go out, wanting to do loads of stuff. for example, in my 20's drank like a fool every weekend. now, couldn't really care less, which when you have to get up at 6.30, is the deal really.
we did do the "controlled crying thing" when our dtr was 5 mths old and went into her own room. hard work, but you have to do it.
she sleeps through, every night from 7pm to 6 ish am. at 7pm you suddenly get yr life and yr house back to normal !!
I do realise with sprog no 2 , its going to extremely hard work suddenly.
no 2 child due on (wait for it- 1st April 2012).
yep turned our lives upside down. its hard work, but worth it. glad I was a bit older and have got loads of stuff out of the way: trips/fancy holidays/adventures/silly cars etc, so I can take life a bit easier at moment.
I think it would be hard, being young, skint and being torn to go out, wanting to do loads of stuff. for example, in my 20's drank like a fool every weekend. now, couldn't really care less, which when you have to get up at 6.30, is the deal really.
we did do the "controlled crying thing" when our dtr was 5 mths old and went into her own room. hard work, but you have to do it.
she sleeps through, every night from 7pm to 6 ish am. at 7pm you suddenly get yr life and yr house back to normal !!
I do realise with sprog no 2 , its going to extremely hard work suddenly.
18 August 2011, 04:42 PM
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Why would you want a noisey, expensive wrecking machine in the house you have worked hard to build up.
Each to their own but no thanks you can keep them.
18 August 2011, 04:46 PM
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Can't understand why people want kids, let alone multiples of them. Other peoples kids are aweful but the best part is you can give them back, then they become some one elses problem.
Why would you want a noisey, expensive wrecking machine in the house you have worked hard to build up.
Each to their own but no thanks you can keep them.
Why would you want a noisey, expensive wrecking machine in the house you have worked hard to build up.
Each to their own but no thanks you can keep them.
18 August 2011, 04:51 PM
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no but it'll be nice to know i have family to look after me instead of some fat sweaty polish carer on minium wage who really doesnt give a flying **** about my welfare.
18 August 2011, 04:55 PM
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18 August 2011, 04:59 PM
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Daniel (3 1/2) said to me the other day after seeing an Audi R8, "Daddy, we need a cool car. Cool cars have engines in the back"
"Oh?" I said, "And what noise do cool cars Make?"
Daniel : "Powerslide!!!"
My work is nearly done!
"Oh?" I said, "And what noise do cool cars Make?"
Daniel : "Powerslide!!!"
My work is nearly done!
18 August 2011, 05:01 PM
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I would love to have my own kids, but realistically, that's highly unlikely to happen. It kills me when friends and family announce that they're pregnant and I admit that, selfishly, I do have a little cry. BUT, I have the most wonderful stepdaughter and we're so close. I do spoil my friends/families kids rotten......but hell, I'd still kill to have my own. Enjoy your kids guys!!
18 August 2011, 05:17 PM
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Can't understand why people want kids, let alone multiples of them. Other peoples kids are aweful but the best part is you can give them back, then they become some one elses problem.
Why would you want a noisey, expensive wrecking machine in the house you have worked hard to build up.
Each to their own but no thanks you can keep them.
Why would you want a noisey, expensive wrecking machine in the house you have worked hard to build up.
Each to their own but no thanks you can keep them.
18 August 2011, 05:30 PM
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We took the opinion right from e start that whatever we ended up with be it a boy or girl they would be included in everything we do, so i dont miss out on going to places, car shows santa pod etc etc, my missus doesnt iss out on her social life, and if there is ever anything that really isnt suitable like a social event ( **** up ) he stays with his nan, but in all honesty the only thing that we have curbed is the social event side of things but it never really bothered us anyway, there is also another plus to this, they get used to being taken here there and everywhere, they get the experience at a very young age of loud, fast cars, and my son is already a gearhead when it comes to cars, my scoob is a second car at the moment, but i cant get in it without him, he loves it, that can only be a good thing, the trick is all in the planning to make sue you have everything you need whilst out and about and stuff to keep them amused if they do get a bit bored now and again!!
Wouldnt change things for the world!!
Wouldnt change things for the world!!
18 August 2011, 05:31 PM
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Can't understand why people want kids, let alone multiples of them. Other peoples kids are aweful but the best part is you can give them back, then they become some one elses problem.
Why would you want a noisey, expensive wrecking machine in the house you have worked hard to build up.
Each to their own but no thanks you can keep them.
Why would you want a noisey, expensive wrecking machine in the house you have worked hard to build up.
Each to their own but no thanks you can keep them.
But fair play, you don't want kids for whatever reason and that's your right of decision. But you won't understand the reasoning parents (or at least good parents) do.
18 August 2011, 05:34 PM
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Can't understand why people want kids, let alone multiples of them. Other peoples kids are aweful but the best part is you can give them back, then they become some one elses problem.
Why would you want a noisey, expensive wrecking machine in the house you have worked hard to build up.
Each to their own but no thanks you can keep them.
Why would you want a noisey, expensive wrecking machine in the house you have worked hard to build up.
Each to their own but no thanks you can keep them.
thats it.
the reason people do it and love it is instinctual.
not saying evryone has to have kids, but its increadibly easy to understand why some people do
and at same time its easy to understand why others dont.
18 August 2011, 05:44 PM
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Can't understand why people want kids, let alone multiples of them. Other peoples kids are aweful but the best part is you can give them back, then they become some one elses problem.
Why would you want a noisey, expensive wrecking machine in the house you have worked hard to build up.
Each to their own but no thanks you can keep them.
Why would you want a noisey, expensive wrecking machine in the house you have worked hard to build up.
Each to their own but no thanks you can keep them.
Im now 32 (and engaged... and yes she agrees completely) and have no intention of having kids... The world is having a population crisis, Im doing my bit.
18 August 2011, 06:10 PM
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If you really wanted to do your bit you could foster or adopt.
Messy house, hand prints, toys everywhere including bath, milk and juice marks on hard floors, cushions never on sofa, washing machine on every day, going to bed at 10pm.
Wouldn't change it.
Messy house, hand prints, toys everywhere including bath, milk and juice marks on hard floors, cushions never on sofa, washing machine on every day, going to bed at 10pm.
Wouldn't change it.
18 August 2011, 06:18 PM
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admittadley, my attitude did change when my own came alone,
i always didnt mind kids, occassionally interacting with them - but tolerance goes right up after youve had your own - yeah some are real sh*ts sometimes
but i honestly look on children now as just small people, (no jokes please) but they will grow into adults and can become interesting, nice people that you can learn from, help, ect ect ect.
if you take no interest or have bad attitudes - most will grow up thinking your a total kn*b. maybe not important to you now, but maybe later in life it could be.
i always didnt mind kids, occassionally interacting with them - but tolerance goes right up after youve had your own - yeah some are real sh*ts sometimes
but i honestly look on children now as just small people, (no jokes please) but they will grow into adults and can become interesting, nice people that you can learn from, help, ect ect ect.
if you take no interest or have bad attitudes - most will grow up thinking your a total kn*b. maybe not important to you now, but maybe later in life it could be.
18 August 2011, 06:59 PM
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my daughter is 3 and my second child is due in 3 weeks time.
if somebody had said to me 10 years ago that by the time i was 37 i would be married and have 2 baby daughters i would have told em to get f*%&ed. the fact i have all this and still drive an impreza makes me proud to be a dad and i would not change anything. your priorities change overnight as soon as u hold that little child in your arms as soon as they are born.
and she is a petrol head and loves daddies "noisey car"
if somebody had said to me 10 years ago that by the time i was 37 i would be married and have 2 baby daughters i would have told em to get f*%&ed. the fact i have all this and still drive an impreza makes me proud to be a dad and i would not change anything. your priorities change overnight as soon as u hold that little child in your arms as soon as they are born.
and she is a petrol head and loves daddies "noisey car"
18 August 2011, 07:17 PM
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I feel very sorry for people who say they don't want children, especially the women. This is because no matter how firmly they think that now, something does kick in and will make them want them at a later stage. 
If you've left it too late, it can be heartbreaking.
As my husband said, (I am allowed to agree with him
), adoption is one way to sort the population crisis. Give a child a home who alternatively would have a thoroughly **** life. Our little treasure would never have been given the opportunities we could give him if he'd stayed with his birth mum. He is amazing. He has changed our lives for the better beyond explanation. I have a daughter who is 12 and I must say I do not feel differently about him because he is adopted. I feel truly lucky, even though I didn't give birth to him, or even know him for the first 18 months of his life, it's about the next X years when we will know him. 
If you've left it too late, it can be heartbreaking.As my husband said, (I am allowed to agree with him
), adoption is one way to sort the population crisis. Give a child a home who alternatively would have a thoroughly **** life. Our little treasure would never have been given the opportunities we could give him if he'd stayed with his birth mum. He is amazing. He has changed our lives for the better beyond explanation. I have a daughter who is 12 and I must say I do not feel differently about him because he is adopted. I feel truly lucky, even though I didn't give birth to him, or even know him for the first 18 months of his life, it's about the next X years when we will know him.
18 August 2011, 08:05 PM
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18 months in and my life has totally changed and I wouldn't change it back again for the world. 
It's an old cliche when people say "if you don't have kids of your own, you won't understand" and I thought it was a load of bo!!ocks......until my daughter came along and it totally changed my outlook on life in so many ways.
It's an old cliche when people say "if you don't have kids of your own, you won't understand" and I thought it was a load of bo!!ocks......until my daughter came along and it totally changed my outlook on life in so many ways.