Just saw this and I was afraid to open up this thread for fear that it was for you guys
Really sorry to hear about it Alex, hope you guys pick yourselves back up soon, can't imagine the feelings you are experiencing. Having kids opens you up to a new level of joy and hurt, when you get the flip-side you know it's all worth it though.
Best regards
Chuck n Nicki

 

LG,

Thanks, for the link, and thought.

We have already bought a Sorbus Vilmorinii (one of the Rowan family), it is one of the smaller varieties, and we have put it in a large pot in our garden. We also have one which we will plant where we scatter his ashes in Cornwall.

The following may be of interest to anyone that is grieving at present, as I said, I bought some books, and so far, by far the best is:

Words to comfort, words to heal - Poems & meditations for those that grieve
By Juliet Mabey ISBN: 1-85168-154-x

It is helping us put our feelings into words.

Thanks again to all for the kind words of support, Alex

 

Just wanted to say thank you for all your kind words, and thoughts. We are very lucky to have such good friends and family.

lol
Milly

 

I'm sure I speak for everyone on this forum, when I say that my thoughts will be with you on such a sad day. I attended a friends daughters funeral, 4 days old, after hospital negligence, it was a truly sad day and I can't even begin to understand how you feel, even as a parent.

As for your question...........say exactly what you feel within, no matter how disjointed it may sound, I don't believe that such details can be planned for such an occasion.

I can say this though, your life, although never to be the same, will get back on track and you will deal with each day as it's dealt to you.

Best wishes and I hope all goes as well as can be expected.

Si.

 

Alex and Milly,
I saw the 'tree' post and thought what a lovely idea.
Both my Nana's are buried in a 'green cemetry' up near Harwich, where a tree is planted on each grave. In a few years time, it will be a little wood, with new plants, wildlife etc. Its a lovely peaceful place to visit, which is also full of new life.

Once again, you have my best wishes.

 

Thanks again to all.

Alex

 

Hi Alex

Just wondered if you had a date set yet. Hope you don't mind me asking.

Best Wishes

Gav

 

Hi Gav,

Not as yet, we are still waiting on the hospital to confirm some details.

Thanks, Alex

 

Just note to say thanks again for the supportive comments.

We lay him to rest on the 24th July.

Alex

 

My thoughts will be with you both.
Take care.

 

Alex - Only just seen this, YHPM

Rich

 

Just wanted to wish you both all the best.

Even I feel terribly saddened by this, can't imagine how you are both feeling.

Thoughts will be with you especially on the 24th.

chop

 

im so so sorry to hear that mate whoever's baby it is my heart and prayer goes out to them cant even imagine the pain they will be going through

 

My thoughts are with you both.

Jason

 

Thanks, we appreciate it.

Alex

 

It will be a year to the day, next wednesday.

Just like to thank you all again for all the kind words and thoughts last year.
And the Mods and Webmaster(s) for what they did.

Thanks all, Alex & Milly

 

Hi Alex,

Thoughts will be with you.

All the very best

Paul

 

It was the very least we could do Alex.

Chris

 

Alex and Milly,

we will be thinking of you - sending all our love.

David and Truda


'Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.'

We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of the universe. Your playing small doesn't serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't
feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make
manifest the glory of the universe that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we subconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.
As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically
liberates others.

 

 

Just read this, so so sorry Alex mate

 

Sorry to hear the terrible news Alex



Mike
(Fosters)

 

Thanks all

As I said, its nearly been a year since we lost Rowan, and is on our minds at the moment.

But reading this thread again helped, which is why I wanted to say thanks again.

 

Alex

My thoughts are with you both

As I know from experience, you never forget but things do get easier with time

 

Dave T-S - thanks, I hope you are doing ok. Has been a long time since we last met up.

Bravo - likewise, thanks chap.

 

Alex

I'm fine, thanks. Hope you are too. Indeed, it's been a while. It will be three years this September since Carolyn died Time flies.

On the moving on front, I met someone else a while back (who also lost her husband to cancer 5 years ago, by entire coincidence), and we got married last month

(Didn't mean to hijack your thread btw )

 

Yes, time does seem to pass all too quickly, was very sad to hear you news 3 years back.

Thats great news, I wish you both all the best Congratulations

As for the hi jack - don't worry - glad to hear you are doing well.

 

That was read at a funeral I attended yesterday. Pretty much covers what anybody would want to say about somebody they care for.

 

Im really sorry to hear about your loss, hopefully you and your wife are feeling a bit better nothing can really replace a child but hopefully you will decide to have more children one day.

R.I.P Rowan