Scooby96

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I have feelings for another woman atm but I still love my GF much more. I'm sure we all have feelings for other people, its only human. If you both love each other it will work out.
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Yeah - but how can you have feelings for someone else (I'm not talking about just fancing someone) and love another person? Surely when you love another person you shouldn't be wanting to be with someone else?

Jen - so are you saying the third party is just someone you fancy? If so thats a big risk at the cost of your marriage unless of course there are a miriad (sp?) of other reasons. If you want to try and save what you've already got then try Relate or dont you want to?

Jye

--Jye, Am i correct in thinking you cheated on your gf then?--

We had split up at the time (2 months), the other woman cheated on her husband though I suppose, but thats her cross to bear

Jye

--jye and his failing relationship--

Get back to me after you've spent 15 years with someone, you sad lame little dweeb. Its not over till its over. I think your a pathetic lonely little man anyhow NARC-O, and by the way you talk, probably always will be

p.s. stop stalking me you saddo and stop wasting someone elses serious thread with your petty attempts at point scoring.



[Edited by Jye - 1/6/2004 1:18:39 PM]

Jen

It's more than just a passing fancy i.e. not just a physical thing, but nothing has happened and that's not really the issue - it's just brought all the other things to a point if you see what I mean...there are other reasons - of which are many are too personal to detail on here - but they involve a loss of trust and a bit of a loss of respect.

That'll be the tricky question then...

[Edited by Jen - 1/6/2004 1:26:13 PM]

Wish

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Chris. Dont know you, but would like to say something that i was told in your situation.

Every Dog has its day.

Meaning what comes around goes around, things may look bleak at the moment, but the tables will turn.

When i was told this, i didnt realy belive or understand what it ment but 6 months on........ Its a true statement in my case. I hope it is in yours.

Good luck to you both.

Scooby96

If you want to try and save what you've already got then try Relate or dont you want to?
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That'll be the tricky question then...

Shall I make a guess at the answer?

NACRO

quote: "Get back to me after you've spent 15 years with someone"

does it hurt jye? LOL I've been with my partner for about that amount of time, that's why I thought I'd offer you my consolations. Your old dog has probably found a decent bloke in the meantime anyway

You and troll boy were the ones that started this- I just like winding you up.

Puff The Magic Wagon!

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Some good friends of ours were hapilly married - they'd lived together for a number of years and got married a few years before. No problems with each other. They planned to trek across Africa and leave their jobs, house etc etc. Plans were made, money spent, organisation etc.

At a leaving party for the girl's company 1 month before they went, one of her (married) collegues told her he fancied her and I think at most there was kiss/cuddle. Girl suddenly thought grass greener and wanted to be with this new man & he her. Told her husband BEFORE they went off on this trip of their lifetime. Husband none too impressed obviously & their joint leaving party was painful and tearful to say the least.

They buggered off for 6 months of the 12, she left Africa in Kenya and he carried on down to the Cape & then off to India. The trip, not unsurprisingly, hadn't been a great sucess. She tried to get in touch with her "amour" but he wasn't interested in leaving his wife and wrecking his own marriage. Upon his return, they finally split up pretty acrimoniously & I don't think they are still in touch - no kids thankfully. She lived in our house for 3 months and it was somewhat painful. It's when I got into PC Gaming in a big way - kept me away from the tears.



Not saying anything here really, just thought I'd recount a sad tale

Both parties have since found happiness with other people.

Jen

Mm.

[Edited by Jen - 1/6/2004 1:41:24 PM]

Jen

Thanks Puff - anything is food for thought... Glad it worked out in the end...

Scooby96

I had a grass is greener moment for approx 18 months - can say we're now happier than ever and back together.

It aint greener its just mown a different way

Puff The Magic Wagon!

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It did & it didn't.

We've lost him as a friend as he's moved to France and never comes over, we still have her & she's great, but we've lost THEM as a couple (of friends) which is sad.

Jye

--LOL I've been with my partner for about that amount of time--


Oh, as claim you are 30, that means since you were 15 or 16 then. Only had one 'real' GF have we, were you going out with her since you were still at school, lol? Another lie from NARC-O? Who knows? Who cares? Yet another thread wallowing in the mire after NACRO enters it.

edited to say, my partner is 6 years younger than me, what about your 'old dog'?

[Edited by Jye - 1/6/2004 1:57:22 PM]

NACRO

She's the same age and we met at school, thanks for asking. We had an open relationship throughout our University years and decided that life was better spent with each other. Thanks for showing an interest jye.

BTW why do you always feel the need to talk about me on threads and then act all surprised when I give my 2 cents worth? I think it's because you secretly crave a good verbal beasting

[Edited by NACRO - 1/6/2004 1:57:04 PM]

Jye

I never mentioned your name on here m8. You must be mistaking me for someone who gives a f**k

Redkop

Jye and NACRO please no more, do it by email or MSN.

Puff The Magic Wagon!

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Jye/Nacro

As requested by Lynne, to which you've both agreed, to desist your off-topic discussions.

I've removed ALL your posts from after Lynne's request, in order to keep the thread clean and on topic. Please continue to observe the ceasefire

Thanks

Scooby96

ceasefire - lol

A bit like the Israeli peace accord - yeah right!

Puff The Magic Wagon!

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Forgot to add ( ) that off-topic responses from either of you will be removed (as have I just done) in order that during this obviously stressful time for Chris & Jen, that they have chosen to ask for community advice, does not deteriorate into an unseemly brawl.

So on-topic replies only please gents.

Apologies to Chris & Jen for wading through your thread with my vape sabre

Thanks


[Edited for punctuation but still not the best composed para I ever did ]

[Edited by Puff The Magic Wagon! - 1/6/2004 2:43:34 PM]

TelBoy

Delete my humourous response on page one then James, if we've all got to remain po-faced about it...

Jye

Anyhow, back on track, me and my GF are going out for lunch tommorow for a talk, a nice meal in a setting away from our usual haunts.

I think you both have strong feelings for each other, so its up to you both now, GL.

John

Jye

Puff my last post was an apology to Chris, no need to vape it.

Chris, I apologise again m8.

John

Jye

Chris, I'm playing this tonight atm on my own and for you and Jen and anyone else who lives in the 'real' world. Call it sad, morbid, whatever it may seem, but this song was played to me one night by a good friend after the end of his relationship, which he had absolutely no control over due to the illness and death of his wife of many years. He cried the whole night long. These sort of things always bring any relationship into perspective. He now has a new partner and a new life.

Love Is Stronger Than Death


Love Love Love
Love Love Love

Me and my friend were walking
In the cold light of morning
Tears may blind the eyes but the soul is not deceived
In this world even winter ain't what it seems

Here come the blue skies
Here comes springtime
When the rivers run high and the tears run dry
When everything that dies
Shall rise

Love Love Love
Is stronger than death
Love Love Love
Is stronger than death

In our lives we hunger for those we cannot touch
All the thoughts unuttered and all the feelings unexpressed
Play upon our hearts like the mist upon our breath
But, awoke by grief, our spirits speak
How could you believe that the life within the seed
That grew arms that reached
And a heart that beat
And lips that smiled
And eyes that cried
Could ever die

Here come the blue skies
Here comes springtime
When the rivers run high and the tears run dry
When everything that dies
Shall rise

Love Love Love
Is stronger than death
Love Love Love
Is stronger than death
Love Love Love
Is stronger than death
Love Love Love
Is stronger than death

Shall rise
Shall rise
Shall rise
Shall rise


May you both travel the path that eventually leads to true happiness.

Peanuts

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Chris, Jen

Andy, Martine.

Luke

Delete my humourous response on page one then James, if we've all got to remain po-faced about it...
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