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15 November 2002, 11:28 AM
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thats the same way with me 
last serious girlfriend i had ended when she said she didnt want to hurt me anymore and couldnt give me what i wanted a she wasnt hurting me and b i didnt want anything !! i know things will get better but im not sure how many more rabbits have to be boiled alive before it gets better 
Mike
last serious girlfriend i had ended when she said she didnt want to hurt me anymore and couldnt give me what i wanted a she wasnt hurting me and b i didnt want anything !! i know things will get better but im not sure how many more rabbits have to be boiled alive before it gets better Mike
15 November 2002, 11:36 AM
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come on guys....Nixs is totally right.
everyone HAS to go out with the crap in order to separate the good from the bad.
you'll find your lobster...you just have to stop looking
[Edited by sexy wrx69 - 11/15/2002 11:37:07 AM]
everyone HAS to go out with the crap in order to separate the good from the bad.
you'll find your lobster...you just have to stop looking
[Edited by sexy wrx69 - 11/15/2002 11:37:07 AM]
15 November 2002, 11:37 AM
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Maybe you should just enjoy being single for a while. I know it's weird at first. I split up with my last barsteward in July, I'm having a great time at the moment, just out with my girlie mates and having a giggle 
15 November 2002, 11:42 AM
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How many times have I seen this scenario - a mate is going throuh it now after having to sell the house and everything 2 years ago.
Girls dont like 'easy' men. A little distance, a little 'mystery' - let them make slightly more 'effort'. This keeps them happy and slightly on their toes... They prefer this although would not admit it. It's a bit silly, but I'm afraid that is the way it is IMHO.
So, if you meet up with her, no longing looks or 'I missed you' after a few drinks. Just be friendly, quietly confident and fun, and make an excuse to leave slightly before she expects it - a little mystery/intrigue there.
I personally wouldn't go, but that depends if you have a g/f now or not (ohh and she doesn't know me
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Girls dont like 'easy' men. A little distance, a little 'mystery' - let them make slightly more 'effort'. This keeps them happy and slightly on their toes... They prefer this although would not admit it. It's a bit silly, but I'm afraid that is the way it is IMHO.
So, if you meet up with her, no longing looks or 'I missed you' after a few drinks. Just be friendly, quietly confident and fun, and make an excuse to leave slightly before she expects it - a little mystery/intrigue there.
I personally wouldn't go, but that depends if you have a g/f now or not (ohh and she doesn't know me
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15 November 2002, 11:54 AM
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Thanx for your advice you lot, looks like i've opened a bag of worms though! (i'm starting to love this BBS)
Its fact women are a nightmare, 80% are bitches, 15% are good but taken, and the rest are disabled and hairy
I know they're not all bad though, my best mate is a girl i went out with for 3 years and broke up with 5 years ago coz we were just good mates. Shes great, i can talk to her about anything and i'd be f**ked without her friendship.
Must agree with Dogmaul on the one night stand thing, although its not the manly thing to say, but i've gotten to the stage where i want a proper relationship (companionship and all that lot.....sad isn't it?!). Thing is, where i live in Essex (Romford
) most girls are just slags who have had more ***** than a chicken farmer!
Which is good if you're just after a **** (and *** rot), but 5hite for me.
[Edited by Steve Fort - 11/15/2002 11:57:17 AM]
Its fact women are a nightmare, 80% are bitches, 15% are good but taken, and the rest are disabled and hairy
I know they're not all bad though, my best mate is a girl i went out with for 3 years and broke up with 5 years ago coz we were just good mates. Shes great, i can talk to her about anything and i'd be f**ked without her friendship.
Must agree with Dogmaul on the one night stand thing, although its not the manly thing to say, but i've gotten to the stage where i want a proper relationship (companionship and all that lot.....sad isn't it?!). Thing is, where i live in Essex (Romford
) most girls are just slags who have had more ***** than a chicken farmer!Which is good if you're just after a **** (and *** rot), but 5hite for me
.[Edited by Steve Fort - 11/15/2002 11:57:17 AM]
15 November 2002, 11:59 AM
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yup i just want someone who will be there for more than a night or two sad at 22 i know but hey its who i am so there (and if i knew how to put a smiley with its tongue out i would put one here) 
yay hehe
[Edited by dogmaul - 11/15/2002 12:13:16 PM]
yay hehe[Edited by dogmaul - 11/15/2002 12:13:16 PM]
15 November 2002, 12:06 PM
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why dont you guys try looking out of your region???
where i live there is nobody but tw@ts, d1cks and losers.
i gave up looking...wanted to spend time with my mates and have fun. then 4 months later met my lobster (who lives in another region).
try and eat out once in a while...its always better than whats at home
where i live there is nobody but tw@ts, d1cks and losers.
i gave up looking...wanted to spend time with my mates and have fun. then 4 months later met my lobster (who lives in another region).
try and eat out once in a while...its always better than whats at home
15 November 2002, 08:01 PM
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I say take it as a **** without all the 'preparation work' you usually need. Enjoy it as it'll be great!! She'll be going like you've never seen her (wink wink).
Just get it there, do the business, step back and admire the result of exhibiting your true animal instinct.
Dont fall for any of the romance crap - its just her getting the ball and chain ready to click onto you - then she'll do the same to you again - then you'll really be f***ed up afterwards.
Just get it there, do the business, step back and admire the result of exhibiting your true animal instinct.
Dont fall for any of the romance crap - its just her getting the ball and chain ready to click onto you - then she'll do the same to you again - then you'll really be f***ed up afterwards.
15 November 2002, 10:48 PM
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I haven't read all the replies so sorry if I am now off topic?
My reaction would be don't meet her... but I had the exact situation myself a number of years ago...
She had changed, the reason that she was treating me like sh1te was gone and we have been married for over 3years and have a daughter of 2 and another baby due in May next year and we both couldn't be happier..
We were together for a year then split for 6months.. the together 6months.. moved in to a rented house for a year and then our own for 6months and then got married.
Just take things more casual and be honest and up front with her..
Say you are worried because you didn't like the way she treated you etc.. there might be a reason for that.. if this start to get more serious then just keep reminding yourself to hold back a little and discuss it with her..
Some of the other posts about mates txting and stuff.. so you ring her and say your mate has txted me saying I was too full on.. sorry about that I'll perhaps see you in a couple of weeks, you call me if and when you want to go out again.. etc..
Why all this worrying about stuff and not discussing it..
Honesty works.. unless you are sleeping with 3 of her mates obviously
JGM
My reaction would be don't meet her... but I had the exact situation myself a number of years ago...
She had changed, the reason that she was treating me like sh1te was gone and we have been married for over 3years and have a daughter of 2 and another baby due in May next year and we both couldn't be happier..
We were together for a year then split for 6months.. the together 6months.. moved in to a rented house for a year and then our own for 6months and then got married.
Just take things more casual and be honest and up front with her..
Say you are worried because you didn't like the way she treated you etc.. there might be a reason for that.. if this start to get more serious then just keep reminding yourself to hold back a little and discuss it with her..
Some of the other posts about mates txting and stuff.. so you ring her and say your mate has txted me saying I was too full on.. sorry about that I'll perhaps see you in a couple of weeks, you call me if and when you want to go out again.. etc..
Why all this worrying about stuff and not discussing it..
Honesty works.. unless you are sleeping with 3 of her mates obviously
JGM
16 November 2002, 12:59 AM
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Cheers JGM, thanx for a nice sensible piece of advice, rather than "Just **** her, my son!".
I'm definatly going to be honest, afterall, i have nothing to lose.
I should be seeing her tomorrow night so i'll see how it goes.
Forgot to mention, she always moaned when i drove the scoob fast
[Edited by Steve Fort - 11/16/2002 1:01:56 AM]
I'm definatly going to be honest, afterall, i have nothing to lose.
I should be seeing her tomorrow night so i'll see how it goes.
Forgot to mention, she always moaned when i drove the scoob fast
[Edited by Steve Fort - 11/16/2002 1:01:56 AM]
17 November 2002, 11:16 AM
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Most women seem to moan about us driving too fast.. wife is for ever moaning at me..
I have two driving modes now.. one when she is in the car and one when she is not..
Although the slower mode has rubbed off on the fast mode, which is a good thing as I am more sensible now..
If you have ever been driven fast in someone elses car then you'll probably appreciate how it feels, it is even worse if they only ever drive slow etc..
Just take is slowly and look out and try and ask why she wants to see you again.. and talk to her about you feelings would be my advice... but then just coz it works for me doesn't mean it will for you.. be on your guard.
JGM
I have two driving modes now.. one when she is in the car and one when she is not..
Although the slower mode has rubbed off on the fast mode, which is a good thing as I am more sensible now..
If you have ever been driven fast in someone elses car then you'll probably appreciate how it feels, it is even worse if they only ever drive slow etc..
Just take is slowly and look out and try and ask why she wants to see you again.. and talk to her about you feelings would be my advice... but then just coz it works for me doesn't mean it will for you.. be on your guard.
JGM
17 November 2002, 11:37 AM
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So Nixs where exactly do you and ur girlie mates go out and have fun???
Dogmaul and others I totally agree and understand on the problems u r explaining, since being divorced (nearly 2 years now) I have had one long distance relationship that lasted 6 months and went down hill very rapidly after that and a one night stand then everyone else has been just a case of 'oh I just wanna be friends' which really pisses me off as that equates to get lost! Why don't they just say get lost in the first place??? I tell you it just makes u wanna give up at times!!!!!
I think Sexywrx couldn't have put it better tho, if u meet her she is gonna open a can worms m8 and totally do your head in all over again. I have experienced similar and have had no choice but to walk away as the messing with your head is far worse than any short term benefits If u do see her tho I wouldn't be surprised as women are so bloody persuasive at times when u just dont wanna give in u have no choice Whatever u choose m8 I hope it turns out to be the right move.
Dogmaul and others I totally agree and understand on the problems u r explaining, since being divorced (nearly 2 years now) I have had one long distance relationship that lasted 6 months and went down hill very rapidly after that and a one night stand then everyone else has been just a case of 'oh I just wanna be friends' which really pisses me off as that equates to get lost! Why don't they just say get lost in the first place??? I tell you it just makes u wanna give up at times!!!!!
I think Sexywrx couldn't have put it better tho, if u meet her she is gonna open a can worms m8 and totally do your head in all over again. I have experienced similar and have had no choice but to walk away as the messing with your head is far worse than any short term benefits
If u do see her tho I wouldn't be surprised as women are so bloody persuasive at times when u just dont wanna give in u have no choice Whatever u choose m8 I hope it turns out to be the right move.
17 November 2002, 02:33 PM
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See her last night on in the pub and got that weird feeling in my stomach (hard to explain, sure you know what i mean), She didn't seem to have changed, flirting with everyone and attention seeking.
Meant to be meeting her today, don't think i'll bother though.
[Edited by Steve Fort - 11/17/2002 3:16:25 PM]
Meant to be meeting her today, don't think i'll bother though.
[Edited by Steve Fort - 11/17/2002 3:16:25 PM]
17 November 2002, 04:07 PM
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i don't understand why men just can't be friends with women. i guess its cus they only want one thing (i think we know wot that is) so i say get over it and move on.
17 November 2002, 04:16 PM
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Men can be friends with women, my best mates a girl.
Its just that if you have certain feelings for a girl, its very hard to be "just good friends".
I do intend to get over it, but thats easier said then done.
[Edited by Steve Fort - 11/17/2002 4:18:08 PM]
.Its just that if you have certain feelings for a girl, its very hard to be "just good friends".
I do intend to get over it, but thats easier said then done.
[Edited by Steve Fort - 11/17/2002 4:18:08 PM]
17 November 2002, 06:57 PM
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Steve, you sound like a nice guy! im sure you'll find some1 who completely adores you,until then, don't worry!
[Edited by weapon69 - 11/17/2002 7:20:34 PM]
[Edited by weapon69 - 11/17/2002 7:20:34 PM]
17 November 2002, 07:09 PM
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Steve, by everything you have said I think you have the correct approach and emotional maturity to be just what a girl wants...
The only thing with girls (just like blokes...) is that they have to 'play the field' a bit first. They cleverly call this 'finding myself'. After 28 or so, they will be ready for what sounds like a very decent bloke like you.
Does this make sense? To me it is as clear as daylight and the hard won experience and observations!
D
The only thing with girls (just like blokes...) is that they have to 'play the field' a bit first. They cleverly call this 'finding myself'. After 28 or so, they will be ready for what sounds like a very decent bloke like you.
Does this make sense? To me it is as clear as daylight and the hard won experience and observations!
D
18 November 2002, 01:49 PM
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Here's my two-penneth:
You can't go wrong if you keep things honest. Game-playing is a complete waste of time - we see right through it and it's a sure-fire way of getting yourself suppositorised with a left size 4.
If an ex calls you for a chat, make sure she knows that's all it'll be, STICK TO IT, and you won't feel used/like a complete ar$e/diseased/guilty/slightly nauseous* once you both climb out of bed.
(*delete as appropriate)
If you don't have a partner, so what? Be selfish with your time and enjoy your own life. Life's too short to dance to someone else's tune, or spend it with someone that makes you miserable, even if they've got a nice bum.
You can't go wrong if you keep things honest.
Game-playing is a complete waste of time - we see right through it and it's a sure-fire way of getting yourself suppositorised with a left size 4. If an ex calls you for a chat, make sure she knows that's all it'll be, STICK TO IT, and you won't feel used/like a complete ar$e/diseased/guilty/slightly nauseous* once you both climb out of bed.
(*delete as appropriate)
If you don't have a partner, so what? Be selfish with your time and enjoy your own life. Life's too short to dance to someone else's tune, or spend it with someone that makes you miserable
, even if they've got a nice bum.