No , you aren't being paranoid at all. It's not right for someone to "want to get to know" their ex again.

He sounds like a very weak indivual that you are better off without.

Ruthlessly dump him and say you aren't prepared to put up with this behaviour.

It's not my ex is it?? :Suspiciou

Forgot to add, if you are fit, open minded and up for new experiences then PM me with a recent photo. :thumb:

Oh, if he's already lied to you then i wouldn't trust him in this situation at all.

I think you should add Female to your spec ;)

I presumed she was female when she said her boyfriend, but given a couple of other threads on here at the moment I suppose I should be careful. :)

I went out with a girl from 1992-1994 and after split we only spoke at other peoples parties etc.
In 2000 we got back in touch, well I contacted her and we have been in contact ever since. Nothing has happened and it's all been by email, but regular contact has led to nothing other than me getting wedding and baby photo's from her and regular updates as to how our lives are progressing as we grow up.
My lady who I have been with for 3 years knows we are in touch but it's so innocent neither of us really mention it.
The ex mentions the 4 of us going out together, but they live miles away and I'm not that fussed.
So in short, it's unlikely to be innocent, but it could be. If he has a track record for being a liar then excercise caution and try to have an open conversation about it explaining your concerns etc.

The Ex you want to shag or the other Ex's :D

Hey!! He might be a liar but he was good in bed :mad:

Why:confused:

Are you short with ginger hair:D;)

Seriously though, if after 3 years together, you feel you can't ask him what he's thinking about with something as important as this, without him accusing you of being paranoid, I'd say you've answered your own question!

What's the point of being in a relationship if you can't talk to each other openly and honestly:confused:

So am I, do you want to shag me :D

Thats a lie :D

I have to agree, but Dave has hands on experience **so i hear**

Hands on what? :freak3: This isnt the homosexual thread btw :lol1:

Exactly, what are you doing in here then:hjtwofing

No ta :)

This poor girl is in turmoil, get back on topic :mad:

I say sleep with his best friend :) That'll learn him :thumb:

Thats my best mate your suggesting she cheats on.... :mad:

Go for it :thumb:

:lol1: you lot can never keep on topic

Suppose a shag is out of the question.

I wont tell my wife :D

you should talk to him, tell him how you feel and if he loves you he will understand!!..:)

No he won't. Sometimes I wonder whether anyone here lives in the real world.

He'll lie to try and get what's best for him. He'll just try and change tactics so that e can have his cake and eat it too.

You can't expect things to last for ever :(

Nice honest post :thumb: :D

Need new thread..... "Neverguess Won't shag the DCI....." :(


The only fcuk Im getting is a 'Fcuk off'...... :D


.... Now where's that number for my Ex.... ;) :lol1:

You men don't stand up for your own kind do you!!:lol1: Not all men are c@cks, can't believe I just said that!!..:wonder: :lol1:

Its worth a try, if it was me I would talk to him and tell him how I feel and if I wasn't happy with the answer, then I'd dump him!!..:lol1:

Carla..:D

Oh yes we are ;) :D

true, I don't know what I was thinking when I said that!!..:lol1:

There's more cocks than pooftas :D



Which is good news for the poofs I suppose.

Call me old fashioned but I believe if you are in a relationship with a person then you should give 100% to them. That doesn't include lying (as he has done) or wanting to get to know the ex (which is a pathetic excuse)

Ex's are in the past and that's where they should stay. There are people that say they are still in contact with an ex but generally the ex has another partner or there are kids involved.

But if the ex is still single there is only a couple of reasons for him to be interested again - free casual sex or he's thinking of getting out of the relationship.

maybe you're right. Most men only think with there d!cks!!..:D