I used to be like that, too, but I found ways to make video chats more fun. For example, you can come up with unexpected questions or play mini-games while chatting. I often use
videocam - many people come there not just to be quiet but to have a real conversation. I've tried starting a conversation with unusual phrases. You can also organize Challenges, for example, to speak only on a certain topic or guess what a person is into by appearance.