If your friend wasn't really a friend at all...?
01 November 2011, 11:09 AM
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Clearly, she's not your friend. She is using you for her own ends. Remove her from your list of friends and don't send her a Christmas card; that's what I intend to do with a 'friend' of mine (he made a real song and dance when I told him that his 11 year old daughter had been rude to me - in my own house where he'd been staying with her on holiday - fed and watered too). Oh, and for my wedding it was only (very) close family, no friends at all!
01 November 2011, 11:15 AM
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Did you tell your friend initially that there were potentially 2 spare seats?
If you did, lesson learned. Keep quiet next time. I'm guessing this is what happened?
But if you didn't, then there's no case to answer, she's just feeling rejected and needs to get over herself.
If you did, lesson learned. Keep quiet next time. I'm guessing this is what happened?
But if you didn't, then there's no case to answer, she's just feeling rejected and needs to get over herself.
01 November 2011, 12:26 PM
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Have you told her to get stuffed yet or are you being all nicey nicey for an easy life?
I ask because going on what you've said, she sounds like the type that needs telling every so often how much of a **** she's being. By keeping it bottled up at your end you're actually doing her no favours at all.
I ask because going on what you've said, she sounds like the type that needs telling every so often how much of a **** she's being. By keeping it bottled up at your end you're actually doing her no favours at all.
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01 November 2011, 01:13 PM
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Did you tell your friend initially that there were potentially 2 spare seats?
If you did, lesson learned. Keep quiet next time. I'm guessing this is what happened?
But if you didn't, then there's no case to answer, she's just feeling rejected and needs to get over herself.
If you did, lesson learned. Keep quiet next time. I'm guessing this is what happened?
But if you didn't, then there's no case to answer, she's just feeling rejected and needs to get over herself.
I told her it would be a bit insulting to invite just two friends, so we were keeping at just family.
All our other friends are pleased for us.
01 November 2011, 01:23 PM
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My last female friend (best friend of we can use the term) decided that she didn't think I should use my children as an excuse in our arguments.
We had a big bust up over something stupid. Me with a four month old, had organised a day out without my son, just us two shopping. It got cancelled, the same happened a few weeks later when we were supposed to go out for drinks. We slowly drifted apart, because of this happening all the time. She came back on the scene when I had my daughter, but the same things started happening. Us arranging things, me sorting childcare only to be told last minute that it was cancelled.
We were really close, and I was clinging onto the last bit of friend I could see, but when I was honest and told her that having planned stuff around children, to get let down all the time was getting me down, and I just wanted to see her. I was told to get a life, abd I wasn't her fault I had two children to fit my life around, and it wasn't her problem.
Massive bust up, and I never spoken to her again.
Since then I have concentrated on the people who give a damn. Until now anyway!
We had a big bust up over something stupid. Me with a four month old, had organised a day out without my son, just us two shopping. It got cancelled, the same happened a few weeks later when we were supposed to go out for drinks. We slowly drifted apart, because of this happening all the time. She came back on the scene when I had my daughter, but the same things started happening. Us arranging things, me sorting childcare only to be told last minute that it was cancelled.
We were really close, and I was clinging onto the last bit of friend I could see, but when I was honest and told her that having planned stuff around children, to get let down all the time was getting me down, and I just wanted to see her. I was told to get a life, abd I wasn't her fault I had two children to fit my life around, and it wasn't her problem.
Massive bust up, and I never spoken to her again.
Since then I have concentrated on the people who give a damn. Until now anyway!
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01 November 2011, 03:16 PM
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My last female friend (best friend of we can use the term) decided that she didn't think I should use my children as an excuse in our arguments.
We had a big bust up over something stupid. Me with a four month old, had organised a day out without my son, just us two shopping. It got cancelled, the same happened a few weeks later when we were supposed to go out for drinks. We slowly drifted apart, because of this happening all the time. She came back on the scene when I had my daughter, but the same things started happening. Us arranging things, me sorting childcare only to be told last minute that it was cancelled.
We were really close, and I was clinging onto the last bit of friend I could see, but when I was honest and told her that having planned stuff around children, to get let down all the time was getting me down, and I just wanted to see her. I was told to get a life, abd I wasn't her fault I had two children to fit my life around, and it wasn't her problem.
Massive bust up, and I never spoken to her again.
Since then I have concentrated on the people who give a damn. Until now anyway!
We had a big bust up over something stupid. Me with a four month old, had organised a day out without my son, just us two shopping. It got cancelled, the same happened a few weeks later when we were supposed to go out for drinks. We slowly drifted apart, because of this happening all the time. She came back on the scene when I had my daughter, but the same things started happening. Us arranging things, me sorting childcare only to be told last minute that it was cancelled.
We were really close, and I was clinging onto the last bit of friend I could see, but when I was honest and told her that having planned stuff around children, to get let down all the time was getting me down, and I just wanted to see her. I was told to get a life, abd I wasn't her fault I had two children to fit my life around, and it wasn't her problem.
Massive bust up, and I never spoken to her again.
Since then I have concentrated on the people who give a damn. Until now anyway!
But, did you get it on with her
01 November 2011, 03:44 PM
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Maybe she's upset because she knows that it'll be the only time she'll ever get to go to a wedding in her lifetime. Plus you can't begrudge her for hoping for a chance that she would get free food and alcohol.
In any case, I hope you both have a great day.
In any case, I hope you both have a great day.
01 November 2011, 03:57 PM
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Well, I just took the plunge and called the registry office, only to be told the wedding co ordinator will call me back. Now to wait and see if they have any if the dates we want!!
01 November 2011, 04:02 PM
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I didn't get an invite to J4ckos mates wedding, he said it was family only so that did me, women are the problem, too emotional and obsessed with bloody weddings, when me and him are on the phone we just say right, bored, going now or I need a **** and we don't get offended.
01 November 2011, 04:26 PM
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She can't be much of a friend, even if she is upset at not being invited she shouldn't be having a go at you about it.
To put it into perspective my best friend got married last week to my brother, I couldn't go because it was abroad and too short notice. Although I would have loved to have been there, and did feel a bit sad on the day, ultimately I am just happy for them both because it is what they wanted.
To put it into perspective my best friend got married last week to my brother, I couldn't go because it was abroad and too short notice. Although I would have loved to have been there, and did feel a bit sad on the day, ultimately I am just happy for them both because it is what they wanted.
01 November 2011, 09:27 PM
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01 November 2011, 10:50 PM
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Oi, cheeky git 
It was my suggestion that they went abroad, second time around for both of them so they didn't want all the fuss planning a big wedding. They went to New York last week and tied the knot in Central Park, photos of them in the middle of Times Square in their wedding gear with all the public milling around them
It was my suggestion that they went abroad, second time around for both of them so they didn't want all the fuss planning a big wedding. They went to New York last week and tied the knot in Central Park, photos of them in the middle of Times Square in their wedding gear with all the public milling around them
01 November 2011, 11:00 PM
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Oi, cheeky git
It was my suggestion that they went abroad, second time around for both of them so they didn't want all the fuss planning a big wedding. They went to New York last week and tied the knot in Central Park, photos of them in the middle of Times Square in their wedding gear with all the public milling around them
It was my suggestion that they went abroad, second time around for both of them so they didn't want all the fuss planning a big wedding. They went to New York last week and tied the knot in Central Park, photos of them in the middle of Times Square in their wedding gear with all the public milling around them
I bet the pictures look lovely.
01 November 2011, 11:10 PM
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Although there's a pic of the groom fondling the Naked Cowboy's backside, not quite sure about that one
It's your day, do it how you and your fella want, everyone else can have their wedding how they want.
01 November 2011, 11:16 PM
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Yeah they do, looking at them really made me wish I was there too but couldn't be helped
Although there's a pic of the groom fondling the Naked Cowboy's backside, not quite sure about that one
It's your day, do it how you and your fella want, everyone else can have their wedding how they want.
Although there's a pic of the groom fondling the Naked Cowboy's backside, not quite sure about that one
It's your day, do it how you and your fella want, everyone else can have their wedding how they want.
Me and my friend had a heated exchange today, got it all out in the open. She apologised and said she didn't realise how her behaviour was coming across.
She said she is really happy for us.
She's still not coming though.
02 November 2011, 10:32 AM
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So now you've two spare places who are you inviting from here?